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        Yea. There is “having personal tastes” but a lot of these comments are just straight up judgmental of other people’s choices of personal expression and using this post as an excuse to espouse some pretty harmful rhetoric.

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    I inherently detest the concept of a “beauty standard”. Something so subjective to each individual experience as “beauty” shouldn’t have a standard, and a mentality or social culture that tries to establish or reinforce them is something I believe to be highly problematic.

    Like in this very post, all the people who are admonishing body modification (injections, implants, piercings, tattoos, etc…). That has been a thing humans have done since ancient times. It is just a form of personal expression, there is nothing inherently wrong with the practice itself. It is the social expectations that makes those things appear uncomfortable at first glance instead of just a different but equally valid form of personal expression. A lot of the comments around them are very judgmental of the assumed reasons behind doing it, though, and it is because of societal “beauty standards” that people behave and think this way.

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    Most of them, but by far makeup.

    If someone enjoys it and wants to, I don’t judge.

    But I seriously never saw a person who looks better with makeup. Even light makeup ( which can look good) still looks worse than just natural.

    Also there is this vicious cycle where heavy makeup users have worse skin and more pimples so they feel pressure to but heavier makeup, which in turn worsens the skin condition.

    People, be happy, love yourself, you are pretty for who you are.

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    Calling anything about beauty a standard.

    Obviously fake anything. Boobs. Lips. Butt.

    Trying too hard in general. Just be you.

    I get we’re not perfect and we all have insecurities. Why are they called love handles? But people are just people. We’re all human.

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    I like how the standard has fractured and there isn’t really a standard now, but I do also kind of like the obviously fake bodies being the standard because an insistence on natural beauty is more oppressive than the idea of beauty as something you do, an art or achievement, even a purchase.

    If beauty like that is something you choose, I am free to choose it or not. If it’s just by luck of birth, that sucks so bad. When I was a gawky tall stick insect of a teenager and the only girls considered pretty were the short and stacked, there was no way to meet that standard.

    Later the tide shifted but as I didn’t grow up feeling my body could ever be mainstream sexy, I didn’t get attached to that - I do have hangups but they are my own. I just try to stay in shape, have good hair, take care of my skin and let the rest be.

    But I think my unpopular opinion is beauty as something you do - makeup, style, fitness, is more democratic than insistence on symmetry of features or a particular height or build, the idea of “natural beauty” is worse. Beauty should be a choice, a hobby, a project, do or not.

    In terms of what I do not currently understand, it’s the moustaches. Young men with weedy little moustaches, straight men with moustaches that scream gay to me, the unopposed highway patrol/1980s gay man moustache I can’t wait for that trend to pass.

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    I dislike most artificial “enhancements” to boost your attractiveness.

    Things like fake lashes, hair extensions, fake nails, breast implants, BBLs, lip injections, botox, and so on. This also extends for me to things like overly excessive tattoos, piercing, and makeup.

    I personally like people who look and feel real. I don’t want to date a mannequin. It’s a okay to have flaws, nobody is perfect. Your flaws are a part of your charm.

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    Pure white teeth. I prefer ivory shades- not yellow, just the natural ivory. I’ve had salespeople approach me offering teeth whitening products and it terrifies me.

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      When they’re done badly, it’s very noticeable and terrible. When they aren’t done, it’s fine. Not everybody is looking for curves and puffy lips. Presumably, there’s a bunch of successful injections you never notice, but on the balance that’s not a very good record.

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    I’ve always disliked plastic surgery, botox and heavy makeup. But that’s normal enough

    My real hot take is I am disgusted by long, fake nails. They make my skin crawl. They’re so cumbersome, I truly don’t understand how people love with them

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      This response makes me take back what I said about your intent in my other comments. This thread is gross.

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      I truly don’t understand how people love with them

      Very carefully.

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      welcome to the evening news, man creates thread so he can bitch about Black women. more at 5 when he phones back in to say how he’s entitled to his opinion.

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        Truly ironic people are trying to say you’re the racist for calling someone else out for espousing racist rhetoric.

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          The racist is the one bitching about long nails, a predominant standard of beauty in black culture, and how much it makes them uncomfortable.

          Like, no one needs to hear your judgement of someone else’s choice of personal expression. Ever heard the phrase “ain’t got nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”? This is where that applies.

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            Long nails are a thing with women of all races. I wouldn’t call it predominantly black. I’d call it predominantly tacky.

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      You and me on both counts dude, fuuuuuu—

      So disgusting. And it looks sooo fake, like they don’t even make an effort to look real. They are thick as a bear claw bruh, looks like some fungus growing under them talons, Jesus. Get that nasty shit out of here.

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    Overly full lips. There’s a bandwidth there where it should fit the rest of the facial features. Filling them up with collagen just almost never looks good.

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      Personally, I’d extend it to the entirety of the bimbo look. Why the fuck would anyone want to look like a cheap sex doll!? (ok well I can kinda’ understand it as a fetish thing, but when ever parts of that look extend to “beauty” like huge lips… ugggh)