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Cake day: June 4th, 2025

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  • When I bought my first car, my dad (who owned the dealership lol) shredded the paperwork that I signed in cursive, and made me re-write in block letters. It’s the only car or other big-expense/important thing that I didn’t sign for with my usual signature.

    My other confusing problem with that transaction was I wasn’t allowed to buy the kind of vehicle I wanted. Yes, I was already an adult living on my own by then, but I figured he knew best. (he did not)




  • I had a string of relationships in my 20s as well, but I don’t think any of them were healthy and I developed my own drinking habit to cope before realizing I didn’t want that misery for myself.

    Dunno if you want any advice to consider, but I’ve lived alone for most of my 30s, and I have to say having a pet really helps. I have a cat and a dog, and the dog does provide more opportunities for conversations to happen just seeing the same people on the trails we walk every day. These are usually shallow conversations so it’s easier to avoid feeling like I’ve upset anyone (it still happens lol “why did I say good morning that way??” but it’s low stakes at least). But even having a plant to take care of helps with the loneliness, because you have this living thing that occupies the same space as you, and even if you can’t leave the house today you can still share being alive and existing with this plant or creature.

    Anyway, I wish you all the luck with your move and your new future

    Edit: I just realized we’ve commented to each other before, I was on a different account though lol. I’m glad your move date is so close now :)


  • I have AvPD, and I am sure there is a genetic link, but it’s hard to separate it from my mother’s issues and treatment of me. She had schizo-affective bipolar and was an alcoholic on top of that.

    I’ve found therapy to be a bit frustrating, because I am able to cope with my fears and recognize when I’m slipping into avoidance but still unable to form connections with people. I’ve been released from therapy but still don’t have any friends or relationships because I still react to other people’s unpredictable emotions with fawning and then cutting them out of my life lol

    It’s a very lonely disorder


  • I have no idea what this is called, since I’m still new to Apple, but iPad has a handwriting correction feature in its Notes app. I recently had surgery on my dominant arm, so that feature really came in handy for taking notes at uni. I write in cursive with some mixed symbols and it’s able to handle that.

    Maybe when going for a mini laptop you can try finding a tablet that also allows for a Bluetooth keyboard, this way you get practice writing by hand but can swap to keyboard after some time.

    Alternatively, you could try the Pomodoro method while writing. I find it helps when my adhd is too stronk