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don’t keep sweatin’ what I do 'cause I’m gonna be just fine

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Cake day: December 19th, 2023

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  • This part:

    Racing thoughts may be experienced as background, _or may take over a person’s consciousness. _Thoughts, music, and voices might be zooming through one’s mind as they jump tangentially from one to the next.

    actually does describe what it’s like inside my head. I think of it like background chatter. There are usually two to three tracks of thought that my mind hops between with a song playing in the background (currently it’s I Second That Emotion by The Miracles). It’s there when I wake up in the morning and it’s there all day long. If I wake up in the middle of the night, it’s there. That can be annoying because it makes it hard to fall back asleep. During the day I can quiet it down by concentrating on something else - e.g., listening to a podcast - but if I’m doing something that doesn’t require much thought, my background chatter comes to the forefront again.

    It is what it is. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ It hasn’t kept me from being successful and it doesn’t really bother me except when it makes it harder to fall asleep. I’m guessing it’s just an overactive imagination? I’ve described it to my husband and he can’t relate - he says his mind is blank unless he’s actively thinking about something (and I can’t relate to that lol).

    I think this is just what’s normal for me. If it caused distress or confusion, I think it might indicate some pathology, but that’s not the case.


  • I keep my house very clean, and when the weather allows I open windows to let in fresh air. I also have reed diffusers throughout my house to add a little scent. IMO the key is to choose one scent for your whole house so that it smells cohesive, and to choose a scent that is mild, not too artificial or overwhelming. Right now I’ve got the Life in Lilac diffusers in Peppermint Bliss and they smell great. All I have to do is flip the reeds once a week.

    You might also be going nose blind to the febreze plug-ins if the scent is disappearing after a couple of days.






  • First of all, it’s great that you recognize unhealthy patterns of thought and behavior in yourself. That’s a great first step!

    That said, a few thoughts:

    • You’re not ready for a relationship - and I don’t say this to be mean, but you seem too immature for a relationship, especially one with the added challenges of being long-distance.
    • Based on your responses to other comments, she is also too immature for a relationship.
    • You created what’s called a ‘covert contract’ - meaning you had unspoken expectations which is almost a guarantee that the other person will let you down because you didn’t communicate with them. Unless both of you agree to plans, you don’t have plans.
    • I think you need to shift your main source of socializing from the internet to IRL. The internet is great and everything but it’s not the same a real life, and I worry that too much internet socializing can stunt your real life social skills, making it harder to connect with people down the road.

    You sound pretty young so I’m assuming some of this is just young kid angst and will smooth out over time. Good luck!