• rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    892·
    2 hours ago

    Pick a coworker you don’t hate.

    Ask if they want to join you for lunch.

    If they agree, invite them again. Re-invite until it’s expected. Have them bring coworkers they don’t hate, or more likely they’ll bring people to you. All of a sudden, you have a friend group.

    Now, start talking about workplace grievances. When your friend group is agitated to the point of mobilizing, you have yourself a union organizing committee

    • Pixel_Jock_17@piefed.caEnglish
      6·
      44 minutes ago

      I did this once. It worked well, still talk to most of those people from time to time since ive left that job.

      My issue was the near daily expectation of going out for lunch. Like who’s made of money like that? Not going for lunch allows me to save like $100 a week now.

      • rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        18·
        2 hours ago

        Do you really hate all of your coworkers, or do you despise your job so much that any inconvenience is attributed to the messenger and not the boss

    • architect@thelemmy.club
      71·
      1 hour ago

      Nah that’s just work friends. Those aren’t real friends. You will lose them when you change jobs.

      Go to the same place every day. Become a part of the scenery. Eventually people will approach you because you are familiar. Invite them to take a seat. Friends.

      • protist@retrofed.comEnglish
        1·
        18 minutes ago

        Oh man, I have many life-long friends from previous jobs. Whether this happens to you totally depends on where you work and the culture there, as well as how open you are and how often you reach out to people to organize stuff

      • rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        53 minutes ago

        Work friends become real friends once you turn the work-friend group into an organizing committee. I still have dozens of friends from my previous job, because we were organizing together

        • JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca
          1·
          49 minutes ago

          Man, I just remembered to text the folks who went out for beers after work when I found a new job, and we’re still friends and have all mostly quit drinking.

      • JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca
        1·
        50 minutes ago

        I made lots of permanent friends at one of my jobs, but I didn’t have a long commute or anything, we live 20 minutes apart only because they had a commute

    • yucandu@lemmy.world
      41·
      1 hour ago

      I tried this but then the friend group all agreed that I was a piece of shit and kicked me out.

  • MinnesotaGoddam@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    20 minutes ago

    honestly, one of my best friends i’ve made as an adult, he was introducing himself at a meeting. he told an incredibly geeky linguistics joke about his name. i was probably the only person who laughed. after the meeting, i introduced myself and said “we should be friends”. that’s about all it took to start the relationship

  • HalfSalesman@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    36 minutes ago

    Friendships are hard in adulthood because of a myriad of reasons but its primarily that adults have a higher bar of trust needed so you need to build rapport slowly over time.

    Its made extra bad today because everyone is working all the time but is too broke to visit social places weekly or more which is largely required for that rapport.

    Can you be friendly by offering someone some gum and make them like you more in that moment? Sure. But try getting their contact information at the end of your social encounter and you’ll find its more of a crapshoot if you get any, and even if you do whether you actually stay in regular contact anyway.

  • axh@lemmy.world
    28·
    2 hours ago

    Version updated for adults: “I have an Ibuprofen, wanna be friends?”