Personally, I find it endlessly frustrating and even terrifying to be in the passenger seat with a driver who jumps in the car and immediately goes… Then worries about Seatbelts/Radio/AC/Mirrors/Plugging in Phone/etc etc while driving.
My father in law brakes incredibly late. Consequently, he brakes very hard. Drives me (heh) insane, and causes me to reach for the oh-shit bar and the ghost brake every time.
My ex gets distracted easily. She always hated that I would ghost brake, but I can’t help it when she’s not reacting to the stopped car in front of us
Yelling at the other cars the whole trip…
Convsersely, a passenger who takes off their seatbelt when I get close to their destination.
Tailgating, racing other drivers, quick jerk lane changes, speeding more than ten mph over the limit, last minute braking.
My husband regularly continues accelerating toward the vehicle in front of us while said vehicle is braking. He also tailgates. It’s terrifying and I rarely let him be the one to drive.
Granted I’m a lifelong loner but…how do you deal with this? I don’t know for sure, but I don’t think I could ever have a partner who drives so egregiously dangerous. Not only is it dangerous, but it also indicates a severe lack of empathy for other human beings. I don’t know how I could reconcile a severe lack of empathy in a partner like that.
I guess it depends. Does he tailgate out of aggression or because he’s not paying attention? Not that one is necessarily better than others, but the intent is different. One just implies stupidity while the other implies lack of empathy.
Not the one you’re replying to but my SO was a terrible driver and still has issues. At first I brought it to them calmly but over the years it turned into nagging. That being said, their driving has improved significantly. Much safer than it was but they still gets mad at other cars who were being oblivious. They also admitted they have problems seeing at night so I always drive at night now.
They’re aware I have a problem with their driving and it is a source of contention in our relationship but not enough to break up over.
When we’re first in line at a red light, and the driver starts doing shit like check their phone.
Wife does this and it drives me nuts - unless it just turned red, you fucking stare at that light so you can GTFO the second it turns green.
…then she gets annoyed when I say “light’s green” when it turns while she’s distracted. -_-
No tolerance for that. Yank the phone from their hand and scold them like a child. That’s ridiculous.
My husband got a ticket/points on his license doing that and that stopped him.
I wish they enforced that more in my area.
Theres plenty of people who complain about drivers who get ticketed for using a mobile while at lights or stopped in traffic (think of the comments on a particular uk cycle cammer who films drivers using their mobiles then reports them) but it plays heavily with situational awareness & drivers ability to “check back in” to the activity of driving.
I’m all pro not touching a phone while driving, hell, I won’t even plug my phone to charge if driving.
There’s no excuse.
What I don’t understand is people having CarPlay/Android Auto and still doing this. I have CarPlay but honestly my Driving Focus declines notifications not from my wife; the rest of world can fuck off.
Driving digitally. Gas and brake pedals are analog controllers, not buttons.
ffs people with lead feet need to read this
Motherfuckers who turn their head to talk to others in the car while they’re driving. Keep your eyes on the road, dumbass.
In movies sometimes they do it for freakishly long, obviously because the car isn’t actually driving or because it’s sitting on a trailer. It’s become a trope, some films parody it.
Lloyd’s first conversation with Mary in Dumb and Dumber. Should be required viewing in driving schools.
Only the necessities
Tailgating is frightening, especially when it’s very clear that if something suddenly happened ahead the driver could not react without superpowers they don’t have.
People that want to be pals on the highway. Get the fuck away from me!
Pretty much everything. Either I’m driving or I’m not.
You wouldn’t want to ride with me, then.
I generally don’t secure the seatbelt until I’m moving forward. Not sure why, but I’ve always done it.I’ll mess with the rearview mirror often, as my position in the seat may shift, and I can’t stand it when the view in the mirror isn’t centered.
As for the radio… I channel surf like mad. 40 presets and I’ll scan through them all before deciding on something that I never stay on very long. My wife can, not, stand it. lol But, the radio controls are on the steering wheel, so doing so isn’t a distraction.
In the past, when I drove any of my vehicles that had a manual transmission, I had a habit of rattling the gearshift at stoplights. People who rode with me didn’t like that either.
Adderall my dude
My current car won’t start unless m wearing my seat belt.
You need to get a streaming audio service - you only need one playlist. No commercials. No blather. Just the music you requested. Surfing is no longer relevant
Looking at me when they’re talking. I don’t care for the politeness of it, just watch the road!
Not allowing enough flashes of the turn signal before turning or changing lanes. I aim for three blinks minimum, usually four. One or two blinks just doesn’t seem like enough opportunity for other drivers’ busy eyes to see the indication.
My husband when changing lanes would wait until he has space, then indicates while turning. He thinks that if he indicates too early, other drivers would intentionally close gaps and not give him way
In my experience, people do sometimes do what your husband says. Not everyone, obviously, but a lot of people really are shitty. So I get that to a degree.
A thing I do actually is that when I’m the first car sitting at a red light and my intention is to turn right, I actually explicitly do NOT use my turn signal. I use it in every other scenario except this one. Because I’ve found that if I use it, I run into the occasional asshole that decides to blare his horn at me for not immediately turning right and getting into an accident with oncoming traffic. When they don’t know whether or not I’m turning or going straight, they don’t honk at me like an asshole.
It’s not that I never make right turns on red, it’s that I just like to make sure it’s safe to do so. I watch oncoming traffic and check the crosswalk for pedestrians. If there is an obstruction to view of traffic (happens occasionally at certain intersections), then yeah I just wait for the green light. But inpatient dipshits don’t give a shit because it took them an extra 3 seconds to get to the grocery store.
This happens to me as well, and just like your husband I’m not one to close gaps on purpose to others.
Because that’s what he’d do if he saw someone signal? Lol
No, he actually doesn’t lol. He’s generally a safe driver and would leave a safe gap if someone signals
He should cut them off then!
Turn signal before brakes is my golden rule.
I fucking loathe the dickheads who slow down (some slamming on their brakes) IN THE LANE before suddenly turning their signal on as they pull a full 90 degree turn, rather than just signal early and coast while moving over into the turn/suicide lane
So much traffic caused by such basic garbage driving
I like it!
Oh god, tell me about it.
I know someone who gets absolutely red hulk faced full of rage because the cars beside them wont let them over.
But the problem? THey dont understand that the goddamn indicator is to INDICATE THEIR INTENTIONS to the other drivers… So they don’t turn the indicator on at all, until they are in the middle of changing lanes, while screaming adn cussing up a storm about “entitled” drivers who wont let him over…
And trying to tell him to turn on the fucking turn signal so they know he WANTS to get over is like trying to explain pi to a brick wall.
I know someone who gets absolutely red hulk faced full of rage because the cars beside them wont let them over […] while screaming adn cussing up a storm about “entitled” drivers who wont let him over…
Meanwhile, in the other cars:
Hey, look at that guy in the fast line. That dude is absolutely PISSED at his friend there. What do you think they’re fighting about?
THANK YOU.
It’s a turn INDICATOR, not a turn REQUEST. I am signaling my intent, not asking permission. If I have room to make my indicated lane change I’m usually going to follow through, and if the driver that will be behind me after the lane change tries to close the gap AFTER I have signalled, well they better be ready to hit the brakes.
It’s a turn signal. It signals an intent to change lanes, but that doesn’t mean it’s always safe or courteous to do so. If your speeds are mismatched, it’s not irrational for a car going faster than you in that lane to speed up so you have space to merge behind them.
If you merge in front of them anyway, they’re still responsible for not hitting you, but you still cut them off.
We’ve all been cut off and we’ve all probably cut somebody else off too. Driving in traffic kind of sucks.
Sitting at 60 in the middle lane, and then getting angry because people are tailgating and both over and under taking. Have some fucking lane disaplin.
Where I live 60 is faster than the right lane and slower than the overtaking lane.
