I get that having problems is not unique and everyone has their own. Some people have worse or more numerous ones. Some people have fewer or less severe ones. Some people may share some of the same problems as you. Some people may not.

But one thing that is sometimes frustrating for me is that my particular set of problems makes it more difficult to connect with others and can be a bit more isolating than other kinds of problems. When your problems are social and/or sexual in nature, they affect your ability to have relationships (both platonic and romantic), which can be more isolating than other types of problems can be.

I am lucky to have a small, but fairly stable set of a handful of friends right now, but that hasn’t always been the case. Growing up, I struggled a lot more than my peers to socialize and ended up as the loner kid at school who hardly said much and ate alone at lunch. Nowadays, I’m a lot happier, but things like romantic relationships are completely off the table.

Usually this doesn’t happen to me actually and I know when things can be kind of messed up. But one time I was telling a story of when my dad threw a trumpet at my older brother which I thought was conceptually hilarious in retrospect as an adult. But yeah I got a similar sort of response as the OP lol. Don’t worry, all us kids are all grown up now and my brother is even no contact with my dad so it’s all good!

I don’t have ADHD and it still sounds insane to me!

That’s odd. I have lived in apartment complexes for a large portion of my life. There has always been a single outgoing mail slot with the rows of mailboxes at the apartment complexes. It blends in so it might not look too different than the rest of the bank of mailboxes. This is in the US though so idk how other countries handle it.

You can’t say you like literally any product on the internet otherwise people call you a corporate shill. It’s frustrating because people sometimes like things…that’s just the nature of life in general. Sometimes you like something that was made by a company and not just already existing in nature…

Reminds me though…I recently got called a “Russian bot” by someone on Lemmy recently. I was super confused because the content of the conversation had nothing to do with Russia or the war or Russian viewpoints or anything. It was so out of left field that I had no idea what they were talking about.

I hear this but I don’t understand. All diet soft drinks taste absolutely disgusting to me. I’ve had both Coke Zero and Diet Coke and both have that disgusting fake sugar aftertaste.

I either get non-Diet soft drinks or I go flavored sparkling water. I can’t do that fake sugar shit. It’s nasty.

But the one exception for me is that I put fake sugar in my coffee. The bitter aftertaste of the coffee helps mask the aftertaste of the fake sugar.

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Weirdly I don’t think I’ve ever had a “phase” like other people seem to have gone through. Is this common enough to not have had something like that?

I guess it was possibly as a teen when I was being LOLRANDOM on internet forums. Not sure if that counts tho because I have always been an internet dweller.

It’s tricky for me though because I’ve always had a social need. I don’t have a need for sex like the majority of other humans do, but I do have a need to be social. Lickily I fulfill most of my social needs by going to work, but it can be stressful at times.

It could be that the first message was automated, but the second message was not.

It seems nowadays, when I get appointment reminder texts from various places, the initial text is automated. But then you can reply whatever you want and a human looks at the message and can respond to you.

I’m reminded of this classic from MadTV:

https://youtu.be/v2biwF6PfSc

I don’t understand why this dude painted all of his people that way and why people found it impressive.

So I have maybe an odd question. Your example gives a somewhat common enough experience on the web. So it leads me to believe that a significant portion of the population are this way.

At what level does this then begin to fall under a “disorder”? If most people do something, then isn’t it really just considered normal and not any kind of pathology?

I started trialing low dose psych meds recently for anxiety/depression and it has got me thinking. If my thoughts and feelings are the same as almost everyone, then do I really have a disorder?

If everyone is abnormal, then what really and truly is “normal”?

If you lived alone I’d say it would be a terrible idea to get a dog. But if your wife is home a lot then it sounds like a much more doable situation imo.

Yeah I love alone and have a career where I cannot work at home. Sometimes I think about getting a pet, but I just can’t see it as being ethical in my situation. Sometimes I do ponder getting a cat though as they seem more independent, but I don’t have much experience with them.

It’s usually not a psychology issue. It’s a money issue. The vast majority of people on the planet cannot afford to retire early.

I know people with kids and they always seem like they are perpetually exhausted and barely hanging on. They talk about not sleeping and conflicts and issues and it just honestly makes it sound horrendous and really looks like they are all suffering from an outsider’s perspective. But then they tell me that it’s worth it because it’s “fulfilling” like you said. I don’t know. From an outsider’s perspective, parents’ words don’t seem to correlate with what I see and hear.

I have a feeling that when people talk about things being “fulfilling” or “worth it” despite seeming to objectively be suffering must be some combination of strange hormones with coping mechanisms.

Idk. That’s just my thoughts as a confused outsider. I’m happy that people are able to raise children. Someone has to. But I don’t think I could make myself suffer to that extreme for a being that will never truly understand what you’re doing for them until decades later.

So why do you feel that it’s ok for your dad to have multiple wives, but not for his wives to have multiple husbands? Curious.

Lol! She was a real “mean girl” growing up. I’m hesitant to outright call her a bully because she wasn’t ever direct like that, but she played a part in making multiple people’s lives kind of miserable tbh.

Really not that shocking at all compared to many… occasionally finding out someone is dead and etc.

But one of the ones that got me was finding out that the girl who I grew up… initially was sort of friends with and eventually painfully shunned me and treated me like an alien eventually became a therapist lmao