Moment of clarity? Embarrassed? Lost control of an antagonistic agenda?
I’ve deleted posts when I responded to the wrong person, and one time I can think of where I completely missed the mark, but I deleted it within seconds of posting. Past that, I’ll accept what other readers decide. I think there are definitely times where a post has been misunderstood due to bad phrasing, but I don’t ride or die on how a post does. Sometimes when something does bad, I’ll try to have some introspection on why, and if it’s because my views are bad or unpopular, I’ll give it some thought. It’s not often that my views are particularly wrong, but like I mentioned, I just articulated them poorly. Sometimes it is just a bad take, I eat crow, and I try to use that as a learning experience and move on.
I’ve never deleted anything out of shame because my view was unpopular.
I used to do this when I was on reddit from 2011-2026.
I did it because I’m a narcissist. Like actually, I was diagnosed with NPD in 2023. People disagreeing with me physically hurts. I don’t know how to explain it but when a person has a worldview disagreeing with me, it feels like an attack on me and causes this kind of ache in my chest.
Everything just gets translated to, “Oh, you think this way? God, you’re fucking stupid! I HATE YOU!” We cannot just disagree because my opinions and worldviews are so intrinsically linked with me. My whole world is me looking into a mirror and seeing nothing but my face. If it reflects something else, that’s frightening.
I obviously am trying to be a better person now and don’t react the same anymore, but in the day that is why I would do it.
Kudos on you for trying to better yourself!
Being a narcissist sound surprisingly like have zero inward confidence and self esteem every time I hear it described. Is that at all accurate?
I disagree.
EDIT: this was a bad attempt at a joke and insensitive, please accept my apologies
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That has got to suck. Absolute kudos for the self-awareness and working to better yourself, npd can hurt a lot of other people if you let it run wild.
Fascinating. What if your opinion was objectively wrong and you just found out? How else does NPD manifest?
@ChowJeeBai@lemmy.world Once you obtain your answer, you must fulfill the prophesy and delete this entire post yourself.
I delete comments pretty frequently. Sometimes you just realize you’ve said something that’s gonna lead to a bunch of unpleasant interactions, and you’d rather just everyone have a pleasant day.
I actually wrote a big reply mentioning a time I did this… and deleted it because I didn’t want to chance another dog-pile.
I cancel posting comments all the time. I write out this whole thing and then when I get to the end of it, I realize I don’t actually want engagement. Sometimes the internet can be a bit hostile and I’m not always in the right state of mind to want to invite it into my life that day.
Absolutely. I’ve written multiple paragraph responses, and then I realize I may have to argue that or just engage more than I’m willing to at that time and just delete it. I’ve got more important things to do than engage in Internet discourse.
95% of the time if I delete a comment it’s because it was either a mistake or I made the comment then I looked through the other comments and realized like half the thread already made the same joke.
I mean Lemmy is kind of an echochamber
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Yes, it is.
I agree.
EDIT: I’m not gonna apologize for this one
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No. I take my down votes with pride.
Let’s test that shall we?
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when I delete its usually because I get the impression like ok I misread the room, misunderstood the situation or sometimes rereading it and I think that its not what I think
I think it’s because we build our identity around our worldview and see conflicting views as a threat.
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Because people tend to post judgemental comments / victimblaming, or just overall werent helpful (even if that wasnt the intent) when I’m already at my lowest, and I could already forsee that the post is just gonna get lots of negativity, so I dont even bother.
I see it often here too, humans are humans and no matter if its reddit, discord, or wherever. Honestly I’ve been learning a lot recently. Sometimes you have to self-help because you cannt expect random internet strangers to help you. Lots of people claim hat “we’re just trying to help” but they never actually try, but just to kick you down while you’re already down.
Phrasing is definitely important. I see many posts where it seems more like someone is looking for validation rather than advice. When those people don’t get the responses they want to hear, they get defensive and double down.
Sometimes people just have shitty views with no intent to reflect on their views and get dog piled on. I personally have no problem with this. I think much of the world has gotten to soft of some demographics. For example, as an American (I only say this because it’s becoming more prevalent, but it should be universal), I think anyone that comes out supporting white supremacy and Nazi ideals shouldn’t get the benefit of understanding. They should be lambasted and ridiculed for being terrible people. If the masses quit giving these people credence, maybe they’d just go back into being closeted bigots instead of making everyone else miserable.
