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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • If one product manager gets added to a call, I hear about it from the other PMs. A good day for me is when I have 8 straight hours of coding to do and I don’t speak to a single soul at work.

    Unless you’re coding for yourself, you’re not going to escape PMs in any other org you would go to. Your situation is where soft skills come into play. Identify a PM you like, and route all your communication through them. If others want updates, point them to your chosen PM. If others want invites to meetings tell them “no problem, reach out to [favorite PM] to get added”. If Favorite PM doesn’t invite them to the meeting then its an argument between Favorite and the other person and you’re out of the loop.

    The best engineers aren’t just good at their technology, but also communicating with others effectively.




  • I’ve been banned from blahaj and beehaw for reasons I don’t agree with

    Both those instances have very specific rules that they have established for the protection of their communities. If you go in their clubhouse I think its reasonable to abide by their rules, no matter your opinion on them. If you don’t like the rules for whatever reason, there’s no requirement to go to those instances. There are lots of other instances with are more laissez-faire in their approaches if thats your preferred interactions.




  • We here don’t give a fuck a say “Nike” like Mike.

    The single syllable “Nike” pronunciation was introducing in the late 1980s or early 1990s with the advertising campaign for “Nike Air” shoes. Sometimes pop culture name shortening sticks. Another example of this would be the brand Porsche has two syllables, but has been shortened by most to a single syllable name.



  • (and why the fuck Mike and Nike aren’t pronounced similarly?)

    Well “Mike” is a typical appreciation of the name Micheal of Hebrew origin that long predates the English language. “Nike” is Ancient Greek, which also predates the English Language. Nike is the name of the Greek god of victory. So neither one of those is English.


  • Comfortable people can still have passions and drive.

    Sure, but OP is comfortable and is citing their lack of passions and drive as a problem they want advice for. They’re asking for confirmation that its okay to have no passions/drives or for actions that will change that.

    You don’t need to suffer to want something different.

    Where @[email protected] is going here is that some temporary suffering may underscore with OP that they want something different than suffering which may act as motivation for them to choose a path to continue their easy lifestyle instead.


  • A lot of people get greedy with free energy and/or homesteading/offgird wackos.

    Solar is one of those really funny areas where extreme left and extreme right folks overlap sharing some of the same views. The extreme left are greenies with “carbon free power only! No to fossil fuels. No to nukes, even if we freeze or starve. Oh, and fuck cars” While the extreme right are the “my individual freedom means no government controlling my power and autonomy, and I love my F-150 like I love my son”.

    There are a few solar power forums and these two polar opposite groups interact regularly. Both groups work very hard to hold their tongues on their respective beliefs, but every now an then one of them can’t help themselves and like the friends holding back the drunk friend at a bar fight, they drag each other back from the brink. There’s some passive aggression on both sides with choices of user avatars clearly showing their extreme position. Sometimes signatures under posts do the same thing.

    The most interesting is when a deep deep red guy is patiently explaining battery management or solar array optimization to an idealistic young blue person, and they’re both getting along hating buying grid power from a giant government backed monopolistic corporate conglomerate.



  • The easiest way to avoid offending strangers is to never engage with them, and so that is the position I take by default. I don’t want to bother anymore.

    I assume you recognize that isn’t a tenable position long term. If you’re looking to start growing from that point I have a suggestion.

    This isn’t quite clear and definite, but there can be a small social gift you give to people when you have a small problem that they can easily solve. It takes a fair amount of time to develop this to know the boundaries and limits, but I’ll give you an easy one: Ask for the time

    Just about any random stranger, when you are both at a location for a clearly legitimate reason (bus stop, grocery store, post office, etc), will give you the time when asked. This isn’t something to do when at 2AM outside a bar. Needing the time is a benign problem that everyone has had at one time in their lives, and its something nearly everyone in modern society can solve. The interaction is so easy its rote. Keep your distance and catch their attention (if they aren’t clearly focused on something else):

    You: Excuse me, my phone died. Do you have the time?

    Them: (Possibly sizing you up) Uhh, its 5:37

    You: Thank you, I appreciate it.

    Then you walk away. Practice that with people around until it doesn’t feel uncomfortable.




  • Like the example you gave for the UK, even though I have never lived there for a long period, I’ve been there many times and I’ve never seen anyone mentioning the societal class.

    Perhaps you have experienced it and didn’t realize it. The upper house of Parliament (House of Lords) is unelected by the people of the UK. Many of its members got their seat by hereditary (as in they inherited it from because of their high class lineage) others are high ranking members from the Church of England. These seats are held for life of all members. Replacement members are elected by the existing members. This is an example of class based discrimination.

    I don’t wanna hate on America at all (I think it’s an awesome country in many ways), I think this is just important constructive criticism because I’ve experienced so many times that Americans called people black or white and made a stereotyping/discriminating thing out of it, said the N word etc.

    I have no problem talking about it. We certainly have a problem with discrimination here. If we can’t talk about it, we can’t improve our situation and oppose this bigotry. Our current president is one of its offenders enabling the racism and discrimination as are the people under him he put in charge.