(original art by Herta Burbe)
So he fucks his dog?
The people on the couch don’t exist. It’s an unrealistic expectation nobody actually has.
Edit: the unrealistic part is that they have so few corners to fit and they fit perfectly. It’s more complicated than that.
I don’t quite agree. Yes, it’s not as pronounced as it is displayed here, but there’s still definitely a difference in statistical compatibility amount. If you have a very unusual life situation, with a non-neurotypical mental structure, the amount of compatible partners gets smaller and smaller compared to people that have a more “common” (specifically not using the word normal here) setup going.
I don’t think that’s entirely true, but even if it is, they could be accurately interpreted as one’s expectation of oneself.
Not a healthy expectation, but a real one.
Don’t crop out the artist.
This was clearly made by Herta Burbė, by the way.
Soul mates are such nonsense. You’re trying to tell me that out of what, 7 billion humans now, exactly one of them is my soulmate? Yeah no. Even if it was even a 1 in 1,000 chance the odds suck. You’re gonna need to lower them expectations bub.
A lot of people don’t realize relationships take work.
It’s two people who click and both compromise.
When things get difficult you shouldn’t stew in it. Don’t cheat or rebel. Open your fucking mouth and talk to your partner!
Be open and honest with each other.
Be open to compromise (this means to meet each other halfway. Not cave in or only your way).Only after talking things out should you both decide to make a major change like moving on (or even an open relationship).
both compromise
I think online dating is absolutely killing that part. When you have an “unlimited” buffet table in front of you why would you ever think you need to compromise at all?
It’s one of the 2537251728 reasons I loath what online dating has become… You aren’t searching for someone you’re swiping for someone and there’s always that next swipe that could be “the perfect one” so you pass up the people who have one or two minor insignificant things, hoping the next swipe will be 100% of what you want.
I’ve been ignored by people I could swear were my identical twin as far as personality and compatibility and I haven’t the slightest idea why other than a bad picture on my end or something, hell maybe my initial message didn’t read like it was written by Hemingway, I’ll never know. All I know is I’ve read conversations about why people pass and some of the shit is absolutely insane…
