First, don’t tell me that the answer is just to “not bottle things up”, because that’s objectively incorrect too. Society doesn’t want you to have any negative emotions. I need to know how to not express negative emotions at all whatsoever unless I’m alone. I know it can be done because it is done in many other people on the planet.

Edit: Ok so I think one of the things I want to try doing next is ask for a med change from my psych provider.

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    First, don’t tell me that the answer is just to “not bottle things up”, because that’s objectively incorrect too. Society doesn’t want you to have any negative emotions.

    I’m guessing you’re a man. Society imposes this upon men in particular.

    Tell society to fuck off. Have emotions, experience emotions, and process them like a human being.

    Then take it a step further, and learn how to handle them like an emotionally intelligent human being.

    I need to know how to not express negative emotions at all whatsoever unless I’m alone.

    This is part of the problem. This is not what you need to know. You need to know how to express negative emotions without losing control of yourself or your reaction to your emotions.

    I know it can be done because it is done in many other people on the planet.

    People bottling things up and exploding when in a safe space is part of the problem.

    I’ll echo the idea of anger management, or even therapy in general.

    Nobody who is healthy hides away their emotions. You’re not alone in feeling the way you do. Society is sending you signals that you need to do something unhealthy, but that won’t actually fix the problem.

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      I’m actually not a man, believe it or not. The other women in my life have taught me to be that way as well.

      Yeah everyone is suggesting therapy, but unfortunately I won’t be able to plan out something for the next month or so as my work schedule is a bit in flux. I started on SSRIs about 4 months ago, but have not really noticed any effects on them… positive or negative.

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        I’m actually not a man, believe it or not. The other women in my life have taught me to be that way as well.

        Damn. I wonder if it’s a cultural thing. Sometimes women are told to keep it inside, too. It’s never exclusive to one gender.

        Later is better than never. So keep looking towards the future.

        You might find some helpful resources online in the meanwhile. Mindfulness and, in particular, emotional intelligence might be two key phrases to look into.

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          Oh yeah, sorry. I didn’t mean to imply it was exclusive to one gender! Just staying my own experience. My mom was a victim of domestic violence so I think I was raised with unfortunately that kind of in mind…she always had a passive role in conflict so I was supposed to as well. And then some of my close friends seem to have similar responses to conflict.