She may be a piece of shit, but disrespecting her transness hurts all trans people by making it okay to weaponize something that is inherent to who they are.
Like, just because Diddy is shit-trash doesn’t mean everyone can start calling him the n-word.
That just makes you a shitty person on top of them being a shitty person.
It might also help to understand that’s already a big problem that the whole LGBTQ+ community has to deal with, that people don’t understand and say/do very nasty things and then we can’t know if there was nefarious intention or just a lack of understanding/experience/knowledge. Then it gets really exhausting to try to handle every situation as if the person just doesn’t understand, responding earnestly to try to explain and then it just turns out they were intending to be a shithead in the first place. So, I wouldn’t blame whoever banned you for just not having the energy or bandwidth to try to explain at that time.
Just try to remember and understand that people may not have the battery level to handle a situation like that perfectly every time. Especially considering that LGBTQ+ people have to constantly live very moment of their life like trying to swim up a waterfall of hate against them while everyone else only has to deal with a river or a creek with less resistance and even places to take a break and not have to fight a current at all.
Not that it’s great to experience a person with a drained battery, but it’s definitely worse being the one with the consistently drained battery when you seldom get a chance to recharge it.
… … Caitlyn Jenner? I know she had a hit and run scandal, and her daughters are a plague on humanity. I can’t imagine carving out space in my mind to villainize her, though.
Dang. I learned something! Before today, I hadn’t heard the term “TERF” (and I find it immediately useful, so thank you). Also, I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around how Jenner could even take that stance. Like wow…
Nottheonion, because someone didn’t like that I dead named Bruce Jenner for being a scum bag
She may be a piece of shit, but disrespecting her transness hurts all trans people by making it okay to weaponize something that is inherent to who they are.
Like, just because Diddy is shit-trash doesn’t mean everyone can start calling him the n-word.
That just makes you a shitty person on top of them being a shitty person.
And that is a far better response, actually saying why it’s problematic and it’s effects rather than fuck you banned
I’m glad it helped you understand!
It might also help to understand that’s already a big problem that the whole LGBTQ+ community has to deal with, that people don’t understand and say/do very nasty things and then we can’t know if there was nefarious intention or just a lack of understanding/experience/knowledge. Then it gets really exhausting to try to handle every situation as if the person just doesn’t understand, responding earnestly to try to explain and then it just turns out they were intending to be a shithead in the first place. So, I wouldn’t blame whoever banned you for just not having the energy or bandwidth to try to explain at that time.
Just try to remember and understand that people may not have the battery level to handle a situation like that perfectly every time. Especially considering that LGBTQ+ people have to constantly live very moment of their life like trying to swim up a waterfall of hate against them while everyone else only has to deal with a river or a creek with less resistance and even places to take a break and not have to fight a current at all.
Not that it’s great to experience a person with a drained battery, but it’s definitely worse being the one with the consistently drained battery when you seldom get a chance to recharge it.
… … Caitlyn Jenner? I know she had a hit and run scandal, and her daughters are a plague on humanity. I can’t imagine carving out space in my mind to villainize her, though.
Pretty sure she’s said some pretty Terf-y things in some interviews but I honestly haven’t paid close enough attention so I don’t fully remember
Dang. I learned something! Before today, I hadn’t heard the term “TERF” (and I find it immediately useful, so thank you). Also, I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around how Jenner could even take that stance. Like wow…
The same reason any pick-me does pick-me bullshit haha. A misguided notion that they can be “one of the good ones”.