yeah that’s rough, I can imaging even more traumatizing with someone you had a relationship with. unfortunately no matter how much we might want a graceful resolution, when someone crosses boundaries like that there’s no “good” way to handle it—they have already forced you in a position where you are being hurt, trapped, or defenseless. there needs to be some level of consequence when boundaries are crossed like this, otherwise the same problems just get worse and worse over the years. i think the most important thing is to not internalize it as part of your identity. that’s not who you are at all, it was a reasonable decision you made quickly in a dangerous situation. even animals have boundaries and will lash back if you cross them, and unfortunately there’s a lot of people that won’t understand unless they really feel it

if you have an iPhone I use the R Download shortcut and it lets you download a lot of things through the standard share menu

even though it seems justified, I can image that’s a lot to deal with emotionally

yeah it’s probably @[email protected] ‘s fault

here u go

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I’ve been loving pi.ai for this, it seem to have far more emotional intelligence than any others I’ve tried

Alright this is my cue that I don’t belong here

All they need is a third developer to write the code

oh dang removes backdoor from my house

[email protected]

spob stole my girlfriend, do not trust him

or computer arson

Waiting for the “in one line” tutorial

My guess is that Copilot was using a ton of other lines as context, so in that specific case his name was a more likely match for the next characters

Apathetically Program Ruthless International Launches

might start a war.

I think lately it’s been nice to see more representation, however I wish there was better emphasis and explanation on why ASD individuals do or don’t do certain things.

For us with ASD, we immediately understand why certain behaviors are exhibited. We also understand why certain things are said, why people with ASD might get quiet in some situations, stimming, and more.

To others, it’s so easy to draw conclusions that the individual is stupid or has bad intentions, when the reality is polar opposite or more complex than that.

For example, with Love On The Spectrum, ASD individuals on a date will appear to:

• Suddenly lose interest
• Not take any initiative
• Unashamedly allow themselves to get distracted
• Say things that seem very inconsiderate

Someone that doesn’t understand ASD might assume the person with ASD is a bad, rude, inconsiderate jerk, maybe intentionally trying to act this way toward the other person. However, someone that does understand will immediately know that the ASD individual has:

1. Gone through an observations checklist and considered all factors related to a potential relationship with this person
2. Figured out exactly what they do and don’t like about this person’s interests and behaviors
3. Methodically determined that the person they are dating will not be a good fit for them

Once someone with ASD has already figured that out, it’s a waste of time, energy, and emotions (as well as a waste of the other person’s) to continue talking with them, and it’s time to move on. It’s a completely different, highly-practical mindset that—although it doesn’t always consider how the other person feels—is well-meaning and has no bad intentions towards the other person.

Thanks! I’ll definitely do this

There’s a huge difference between a tag bothering you throughout the day, and a tag completely destroying your ability to function.

Yes, this made me want to commit arson. Thanks for reminding me.

I think it’s all about how you define and measure “best.” A lot of us are subconsciously using other people’s definitions of “best” and throwing it on ourselves. That doesn’t always work, and here’s why:

A Prius can technically join NASCAR, but should it? No—it’s better used for saving gas. There’s other cars out there that are built for racing (but not too gas-efficient). And neither a Prius or a NASCAR car should drive through a tornado, but we have extreme weather cars made for that purpose.

One big problem in our society is that people who feel successful tend to project their own experiences on others without taking the time to put themselves in other people’s shoes. “What do you mean? It was so easy for me, if you can’t do it then you must be choosing to fail at life and therefore you’re a bad person.” Then, those that don’t feel successful tend to take on this standard set by others who seem to be more successful than themselves. The problem with this is that everyone is in a different place with strengths, skill levels, growth, life circumstances, and more that make things require more or less effort from us.

Everyone’s 100% is different from person to person and with different life circumstances. For me growing up, I was constantly running at 150% overdrive which was someone else’s relaxed 75%. You can only go so long at 150%, and it’s even worse when you’re giving that much but believe and were told that you are only giving 75%. On the contrary, my 75% effort writing code or analyzing every ingredient on products that I buy would be 150% for someone else.

My point is, maybe “Doing appropriate work” like you said is actually “Doing my best work.” And maybe we need to pay attention to others a little bit more so we can see that.