What do you mean on a time basis?

Agree that it’s hard to find really long running conversions (like what you see on forums), unless you happen to be going back and forth with one other person (notifications pull you back in).

Yes, I agree with that. I try to inject a little counter culture whenever a wade into the mainstream, but generally avoid it because I find it very saddening.

Forums still exist, but I hard agree with you. I was so excited when the lemmy devs were considering hiding votes counts from the frontend by default. Unfortunately (imo) it got shot down by the community pretty quickly.

I think “likes” as a socials concept are part of a dark engagement pattern we’ve willfully brought over from the mainstream, and we won’t be able to be much better than them until we’re rid of it.

Good question, and they might. In which case it would be easier to have a discussion with them.

However, I think much of the time they cleave to a more Kantian morality, where acting correctly / virtuously in accordance with an identifiable authority. They may also believe that the future of life on this planet is trivial when compared to quality of life on some metaphysical plane.

I have this discussion with my neighbour constantly who is nice, but she keeps saying I’ve “got to have faith” and that “they have a plan to fix all this when the time is right” all while real people are suffering and dying, and their suffering is indelible — it can never be made to have not happened — and they will never be coming back.

It’s really hard to have a real discussion about reality with someone like that.

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Yes, it’s a matter of gradation. It’s not an echo chamber for me because so many of you have different opinions, but generally we all care about what is true and the future of life on this planet.

So it’s easier to have discussions around the parts we disagree over.

I find I don’t agree with a lot of people, though there is at least a higher chance that someone, especially from my instance, will share my values and at least be willing to hear dissenting opinions without going right to insincere strawmaning.

I feel like that’s an issue that’s exacerbated by the predominance of image posts over text posts, and text post only communities.

I’m such a solipsist, I’m surprised reddit is still relevant to anyone. I certainly come across some posts when searching for tech or product questions, but that’s it.

Although even outside of the fedi, I spend more and more of my time just looking at people’s individual websites and blogs. I’ve got a basically bottomless RSS feed curated by this point, so I don’t even need an aggregator for the scroll – I’ve got my own.

Some white knight that seemed to house only people on the worst days of their lives having super aggressive arguments just outside my door.

Welcome. :)

Hell yeah forums

Depends what communities you frequent, I think. I’m still drinking from the “all/hot” firehose presently, but I see myself spending more time in the smaller communities as lemmy overall get bigger and more mainstream.

Lol what I feel like saying

If a person tells me their gender, how should I react/respond to it? Is my current line of actions appropriate (just address them with their preferd pronouns, and if I do not know that, use they/them; completely ignore the sexual part of it)

That’s perfect. Many people struggle with this, myself included, but if you make an honest effort to address people by their preferred pronouns, then you’re doing great.

In a way, accommodations can erase disabilities.

This is a conversation between me and the gcc compiler (I suck at programming)

Because then you wakeup in your makeup.

First time I remember was a Nintendo forum, where someone accused me of masturbating in the shower and I had no comeback.

That’s why we love it. We get to gently lecture someone about our interests