Yes, my point was that the degree of that just differs. People that truly don’t mask at all are usually insufferable, autistic or not. Autistic people however often need to suppress most of their entire personalities. For example many people will react to you negatively for not making eye contact when talking, which for most autistic people is not something that comes naturally. They will also interpret things into your words based on facial expressions. When I’m talking to someone and they can see my face I have to constantly consider where to look (can’t just stare them into the eyes either) and what to do with my facial muscles (which still doesn’t guarantee I’m doing the right thing for the other person to understand my actual feelings). From everything I’ve read, neurotypical people don’t have that issue. (And this is the masking we mran that can destroy you and feel like you lose your real personality if you never get lucky enough to find people you can be more relaxed around - especially when in school it mostly just means being bullied)

And then there are sensory issues (thankfully I mainly struggle with scents and some textures, which are overall not an issue that often, but many struggle with noise) which multiply all the annoyance that anyone has from loud noises, bad smells or whatever tenfold. And you also get annoyed at a far lower threshhold that neurotypical brains just filter out automatically.

The masking pressure autistic people have to deal is just more constant and more consistent, but of course everyone has their own shit to deal with.

The difference in severity is literally why masking in autistic people is a symptom and something that often negatively affects us, while for non-autistic people it’s mostly kinda whatever. It’s totally possible to not be autistic and heavily mask to the point where it’s negatively affecting you too, but when you’re autistic that’s the norm and you’re the lucky one if you never experienced it.

Then they can accept that I won’t do whatever thing they want me to do, because I don’t exist to serve them?

Glad I now have friends that are entirely in agreement that waiting is pointless.

I would highly disagree it signifying you as anything special, it’s a random ass social norm that serves no real purpose. But yes as I’ve said I’m well aware how it makes some ppl feel so I wait when eating with anyone I don’t know well. And sure it’s not hard now, which is the part where I mentioned this kind of thing mostly happened when I was a kid.

Honestly that reaction is just proving my point lol

Usually when it’s things that are “socially expected” but don’t make sense to me in that moment. Like being asked to wait with eating food until everyone has some (still don’t really get it, but “it’s a social norm and people will feel bad” is sufficient for adult me since it’s really nbd. As a kid no one even explained that far though, just that it’a a thing you do because you do.).

In general as an adult its been pretty rare since I’ve learned it’s not worth the effort (and whatever if it makes people happy then cool), and if I really don’t wanna do something I consider pointless (like wearing a suit - which I’d first have to buy - to a wedding in 30° heat as someone who is already very uncomfortable in shorts and t shirt in 22°) people are more likely to respect it because they can’t really force me anymore.

I do think the more common one (that still happens a bunch) is when providing the why, or more generally when providing extra information. It seems to me people often assume I’m overly criticizing when I do that. Like “can you add this thing to the sheet I think it’d be helpful when <3 sentences of the context in which I think it’s good to have>” tends to get worse reactions than “can you add this thing to the sheet I think it’d be helpful”.

So same as the food thing, maybe it’s more about wanting far more detailed explanations than about wanting one at all. But to me the less detailed one often doesn’t feel like a real explanation, moreso a justification.

Adhd in particular is a very “everyone can relate, only people with adhd have their lives crippled by it” thing. To some degree this applies to many mental disorders (e.g. everyone has some anxiety).

The need to know why is clearly not a normal thing or I wouldnt have had the frequent experience of people getting mad at me for demanding the why or, which is still utterly confusing to me, for explaining the why when asking someone to do something.

I was wondering which part about them makes them dangerous or fucked up, given they’re from australia. Thanks for providing the answer lol

I’m only complaining about all the people that apparently regularly lost bottle caps. I don’t think that has happened to me ever… Not the end of the world and if it reduces litter I’ll deal with it but I curse these people every time one of the new caps is being annoying to screw back on.

So, english works like language has always worked, and french has lost the plot.

That said, complaining and refusing to use it yourself when people use language in a way that you think makes no sense is also part of that process. Feeling superior because of that is just ridiculous though.

Similarly, I’m not 100% sure about this but afaik the + got commonly added before the IA, and I really dislike adding anything specific after a generalized “everyone who feels part of it” because doing that delegitimizes that the + actually means everyone. Though it also does suck if people feel excluded otherwise.

I’ve seen queer used to refer to the whole community though, but I think LGBT(+whichever addendums) has just been around for so long it’s most people’s goto, plus “queer” used to be a slur.

In my head it’s just “people not conforming to the majority group for sex or gender related reasons” and then I write whatever my brain decides is the term in that moment. Usually LGBTQ+.

Hmm, as someone relatively deep into lgbtq issues (though particularly trans issues), I’d say the term itself is perhaps a bit misleading. The way I understand it and see it used is that it’s about heterosexuality and also gender norms within that traditional heterosexual relationship (so some people think that even in a homosexual relationship there’s always “a man” (dominant) and “a woman” (submissive)).

In that sense (to directly relate to the post) a dominant woman in a relationship with a submissive man would actually go against heteronormativity a bit.

On second thought I guess I can see the relation though, in the sense that the traditional “man is dominant in a hetero relationship” combined with the fact that by default most men probably mostly top could make someone see “topping is considered dominant” as reinforcing those traditional relationship norms. Still feels very overreactive by the original commenter but eh.

Heteronormative != heterosexual

I fail to see any issue with the post (like fucking everyone associates topping with dom that doesn’t mean it has to be, and the image works), but it’s decidedly a complaint about social norms rather than a group. Even if I think it’s not a valid complaint because wtf does it have to do with heteronormativity.

If humans are any indicator, they might also be doing things because they think it’s an advantage but actually does nothing.

Urine contains salt, always, even when in a state of hyponatremia: https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/medicine-and-dentistry/sodium-excretion (scroll down to the kidney disease paper, it wont show any of the text on the direct link, insert obligatory hate on academic publishers)

I hope you don’t need a source for distilled water not containing salt or water needing to be excreted or for sweat (the other way water leaves your body) containing salt, I already spent way too much time on this because sourcing on mobile is a pain.

And yes, <10mmol/l isn’t a lot. That’s <500mg (and how low it can go precisely idk, couldn’t find that, but likely much lower, given that the <10mmol figure is a threshold for diagnosis of kidney issues) You replenish that through food, easily (esp these days where sodium intake is, if anything, very high). That’s the whole point. Barring very extreme situations, healthy kidneys will regulate your sodium levels just fine.

Yes exactly glad you get it. Some people want to actually understand why something isn’t true instead of believing the first source that says so.

Yes that’s what I said. But one of the likely reasons the myth stays around is that all of the following is true:

• Excreting water requires electrolytes
• Excreting water will remove those electrolytes from your body
• Drinking significantly more water than you excrete will lead to hyponatremia
• Distilled water has no electrolytes while tap/mineral water does

What the myth ignores is that:

• The amount of electrolytes in water is negligible anyway, so distilled water isn’t really worse in that regard and consumption of any normal amounts of distilled water is completely fine
• You can’t just drink infinite fluids because you consume infinite electrolytes because your body is more complex than that, so regardless drinking too much of anything will kill you

But saying it doesn’t strip you of anything isn’t entirely true, and I’m not a fan of misinfo even if it’s more of a nitpick. More than that I don’t think it’s going to help when from my first 4 bullet points you could easily come to the incorrect conclusion that drinking distilled water will quickly lead to hyponatremia.

It’s probably also where the osmosis thing further up comes from, since that’s involved in causing the neurological symptoms, it’s just unrelated to what fluid you consume, since it happens with your blood, not the fluid itself.

You don’t fight misconceptions with half-truths.

Edit: when i say fluid i mean something water based ofc, if you drink something else for some reason you’ll probably have all sorts of different issues anyway.

It does, for the simple reason that urine (as well as sweat) necessarily contains electrolytes, so you lose those.

The misconception lies in thinking that tap or mineral water somehow don’t do this. They contain some electrolytes, but not really a significant amount, as you primarily get them from food.

It’s great in mobas where skills are universally referred to by their default binding on qwerty (since most layouts have qwer on those keys). So sometimes unaware french people talk about their a and z skills and everyone else is just confused

But OOP did not say “I don’t do things I think I should”, they said “I don’t do things I want to do”. They described the executive dysfunction loop quite well.

If you mean Kinder Joy that’s a different product that we have in europe as well