well… therapy absolutely helps you figure out your needs as an autistic person (complete with a real diagnosis) and helps you develop safe coping strategies for this and being queer in a hostile place.

A good should help you build a real support system and protect your self-identity from harmful family, including forming a plan to leave them. And learning to love yourself, awkward as you may think you are.

I guess I see a lot of things in your post that a therapist could and should help with. I’m wondering if you had good ones, and what they were doing with you in that time.

Just as you wouldn’t go to a surgeon or dentist and let them work without a treatment plan, you should agree on your goals and the modalities a therapist intends to use to get you there, at the beginning. And you can refer back to this to see if you’re making progress or not.

Unfortunately like all healthcare now, you often have to research and become your own self advocate first. You should fire a therapist long before you spend thousands and years doing nothing. Bad therapists are out there, a lot of them. But good therapists can move mountains.

I work in a university, I can think of 3 offices in my building that still have them.

As the death of the Internet becomes more obvious, new technologies will spring up to replace it with a decentralized, non-commercial version. Already seeing apps coming out, like BitChat, that don’t use the internet at all.

Yeah I hate to say it, but I worked in HIV prevention in the late 2000s, and we really thought prep was going to be the end of HIV, along with rigorous testing and linkage to care.

Since then, HIV rates have exploded in many areas, silently, because we’ve gone fully regressive on sex ed.

I have friends that became HIV positive before they even knew about prep.

WTF happened.

My neighbor introduced himself and his wife to me, and he says “Maritza,” very flat, and I say, oh maRITza" with a little flourish and tongue roll and he’s like “no, Maritza.”

They’re both Mexican and her name is pronounced the full way with their extended families, so I think the point was, don’t accent up the word I just told you. And I haven’t since.

So chickens are out of the question

Also “I never said he licked my asshole” can mean I implied it heavily.

Why did I watch it all the way through tho

And I had to watch an ad for ketamine before it, this timeline is weird.

Ooooh you have to do a double pour to get that angle, and remember to use an old throwaway gun if you’re going to do a gun aspic, it’s a 50/50 chance it’ll ever fire right again. You can reuse the gun in another aspic tho

People keep making the point that in the worst of the depression, they were giving away tableware to just get people in the stores.

The CEO of McDonalds is currently lobbying the White House to raise the minimum wage. Saying there’s a “two track economy” and point out stratification. Curious.

They’re noticing they squeezed us too hard, not just as consumers but as a class. To the point where it’s eating their sales now. So they’ll adjust it just high enough that we keep bleeding for them.

Breadcrumbs.

The fucking parenthetical x86 absolutely kills me. I don’t normally wish dick cancer on people,

I always found it to be melancholy but lately I’ve been seeing the whole cycle, and how if we don’t have fall, we can’t have spring. I suppose it helps I moved 1,000 miles south so winter isn’t really a thing anymore. I do encourage that.

Pictured: transcendental unacceptability

The fear is real but in 30 years of unix and linux work, i’ve never actually deleted anything I didn’t mean to.

I actually find it encouraging that people still respond to “evil.” Like yeah we don’t allow people to just be openly evil anymore. That sounds like a good change.

Normally blood and gore makes me upset. For whatever reason, I smiled the first time I saw this video. Then the next 15 times as well.

If you’re part of a movement that’s taking vaccines away from babies, well, you’re evil and people are going to respond to that.

Yeah that’s insane, you are legally allowed to make any mark and it’s a signature. But cops are above the law, so

Antitoxin serum!? You gonna tell me what I should put in my kids bodies? Hell no! That’s communisocialism

Some say this is just a coverup story for the murder of the ladle inventor whose family in Kilkenny still claim rightful ownership of that patent, but today arguing with Big Spoon is just asking for it