I really don’t know what’s going on with me. I was laid off rather suddenly and unexpectedly. I spent the next 5 months looking for a job. I spent the day searching for jobs and networking and applying, then taking weekends off. Additionally, I’m already diagnosed with anxiety and take meds. It’s semi controlled.

I’ve had a job for 3 months now. (So it’s 8 months since I was laid off.) I’m completely drained by the time I get home and NOTHING is fun. I’ve quit all my hobbies. I want tot WANT my hobbies, but I just don’t. I want to just lay down and do nothing. I think I should be back to where I was before the layoff. My previous jobs never drained me this much. This job isn’t that far off from my last job.

Can it take months to get over being laid off or could there be something else going on?

  • MystikIncarnate@lemmy.caEnglish
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    4 days ago

    I’ve been there, done that. Welcome to the club my friend.

    The only reason I got through my last layoff without stooping into a deep depression is that I’ve done this dance so many fucking times that I’m tired of it all.

    Luckily I had a new job about a month later, which I 100% acknowledge is luck.

    I still miss my previous job, it was much better than the one I have now. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not angry at being employed, I’m just sad that I didn’t get to remain employed with the last workplace.

    I get it, 100%. Nothing you said is really all that abnormal. You clearly liked the job, and there’s no good way to express that loss. It’s just something you have to go through all the stages of. Eventually the whole ordeal will seem further and further away and you’ll settle into a routine and get your life back to where it should be. You lost something and it’s okay to be sad about that.

    What isn’t good is if you start getting any worse than where you are at now. If you start sliding deeper into it, or you feel like you’re drowning, please seek help. The people who care about you don’t want to lose you.

    My advice for the future is: never invest more than you’re willing to lose, whether you’re taking about money or emotional investment, the reality is that you can lose it all in a snap. Make sure you know what you’re risking and ensure you can sacrifice what you’ve invested if there’s a sudden change from management. Take care of yourself first, then worry about everything else.