If your post would end up like that in a day, please just refrain from posting it, in any community, or use a throwaway. It is very destructive, especially since all and every comment also becomes unreachable with it.
Sincerely,
With all due respect,
Your Lemmy neighbor
I’m fed up with this shit, and I know it well that it’s not just me.
Do not bomb your communities, please.
I promise, I’ll end up setting up a public instance that does not obey any deletions because of these madlads. Seriously, where is pushshift for lemmy?
@WhyJiffie I’ll try to reply using this platform (Friendica… I had no success with Mastodon, Tootik and Pixelfed). I tried to reply to a reply in this thread but my answer failed to federate (and Friendica doesn’t return their reply in the search box). I’m replying with the following intent: to remind about neurodivergence. I am ND myself (I’m not autistic, but I was diagnosed with schizotypal PD, and I suspect I could actually have Geschwind syndrome; in any case, I’m certainly ND because I can’t think/express nor see/perceive/feel things in “typical ways”). ND people express themselves in non-typical ways (my reply is hopefully an example of that). ND people are often mistaken as AI (and this can further deepen the alienation ND people often feel and suffer from). People often downvote content without further try to engage/explain _why_ they downvoted, and ND content is more prone to downvotes due to sincericide (exacerbate sincerity) and seemingly lack of “emotional resonance” (i.e. “cold-sounding” texts) with NT (neurotypicals). Or, ND content is simply ignored, ghosted, relegated to the void, either because NT people don’t know how to further engage with such a content, or because NT people couldn’t even bother to try and read it in the first place (people are becoming accustomed with short texts, fast content, and ND texts can be looooong). Best case scenario, ND people are replied back with superficial replies because their content couldn’t communicate what they intended to communicate. And this can be pretty infuriating/frustrating, especially because ND people often face the lack of belonging, feeling like they can’t fit anywhere… and this often leads to resigned departure, which you referred to as “permanently deleted posts”. This is something I did: I left Lemmy many months ago, partly because of the many phenomena I described: it feels frustrating to be yourself and being drown into either ghosting, downvoting, superficiality or prejudice, even though I tried not to bother… but what we write is fragments deep from our souls. I can understand the feeling of watching a reply vanishing with an entire post, it’s frustrating… just as it’s frustrating to watch a post being misread or ghosted because I was born akin to an extraterrestrial trying to communicate with fellow humans to no avail. That’s why I often find myself “nuking” my own content: because there’s no reason to keep a communication attempt that led to no meaningful and deep communication. I hope this clarifies one of the reasons why “Permanently deleted” could happen.
I think i might be ND just going off what your wrote as I can relate to most of it… sheet.
I see, I’m sorry for your bad experiences.
while the ND/NT devide can have a significant effect on what kind of responses a long post may receive, I think about those who obviously didn’t read beyond the first 10 words in yet another way. I think they have a mental disorder of severe attention deficit. there’s some nuance to it, like sometimes the person is just in a hurry or something, but this can often be seen from the quality of the response because that 3rd type of person I mentioned is very prone to make very short, meaningless comments, which also have other properties I don’t know how to put into words, but which make you feel they didn’t even try to give something useful. and brainrot platforms like tiktok really don’t help with this worldwide issue.
I see. Hmm. The cases where I find deletion problematic always had something useful in them, either the post or the threads.