I have some friends that go to visit their friends in Mexico from the US very frequently. When they come back in town we meet up to eat. But the entire meal they talk about their experiences and friends there. Usually I only get a couple of words in and then it is back to their plans. I am trying to live in the present and enjoy my life experiences and my life here at home. But they never ask anything and although they are nice people, I feel exhausted and defeated after we get together. Is it time to limit my friendship with them?

  • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    I feel exhausted and defeated after we get together. Is it time to limit my friendship with them?

    The rest of your post isn’t relevant. These two sentences say it all. If you’re not enjoying the friendship, if it’s taxing, then step away. It doesn’t, and shouldn’t, need to be some big dramatic thing. Just be busy when they try and make plans, or only accept half as often.

    Friends should be people you look forward to spending time with. If they aren’t that, move on.

      • Aarrodri@lemmy.world
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        9 months ago

        I think it’s easy to say “just step away”. Turn thing around. If you had friends that Are thinking of leaving your friendship because something you do (most likely not on purpose), would you prefer them just disappearing? Or kindly discuss with you and share what is bothering them ? Basically give the friendship a chance? Communication is important for any relationship to flourish.