Sorry if this topic is stupid, I feel very stupid right now. I got transferred to a new department and I’ve had 2 or 3 clashes with the new boss about me not getting the hint. He finally gave me a metric, a number to get to. He spelled it out. I can do that, but I’m just freaking out that he’s gonna fire me because I couldn’t get the clue until today.
Why are you fretting because your boss sucks at communication? Establish your expectations and communicate these. They should be able to give you direct goals when necessary.
Because I’ve been berated for decades about how I’m stupid for not getting the point, training me to think it’s my fault. Anxiety isn’t rational.
I understand. You’re right that anxiety (or any emotion) isn’t rational, but try to remind yourself that communication is a two way street.
They obviously hold a position of power considering they are your boss, but it would be good to discuss expectations and boundaries to prevent miscommunication in the future!