I’ll just put this out there: Would it feel less weird to you if it was your daughter?

Anecdotally, I had a friend who crawled up to cosleep with her single mom even as a teenager and student sometimes. Especially when she wasn’t doing well. Being a family of 2 brings you very close together, and also unfortunately, makes you the only super close person in their lives. She liked to cuddle up with friends too occasionally. It never seemed off or weird.

She might be hypersensitive (although this is not a recognized diagnosis), but otherwise, she is developmentally (and sexually) absolutely standard. She’s 33 now and does very well in life and with her boyfriend.

What I mean by that is that it might seem more unconventional to cosleep with someone of the opposite sex who is starting puberty. Being a girl, having a girl friend, and this girl friend liking to sleep with me, another friend, or her mom as company was never weird. All other friends also thought that’s fine. I think that’s that girl privilege where we are more comfortable with closeness. So, if you felt weird if it was your daughter too, it might just not be for you (although you mentioned you slept better). If it’s about the gender (some subconscious bias), it’s still your child. Just your child.

Last but not least, there are more than enough people around the world who share a room or even a bed with family members until a bigger age. A friend of mine coslept with 8 silblings since there was just no room. Especially with a voluntary cosleeping situation, I would rather try to focus on the benefits it gives you two - closeness, connection, a feeling of safety, and knowing you’re there for each other. Also through changes in life.

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Also in general so much non SOP and GLP stuff, sloppy work, and constantly needing 11-13 hours a day to get stuff done. Like, I actually see why - they talked and snacked and talked. It wasn’t 13 hours of work, it was about 5. But still - how on earth did the supervisor, who has to make sure no one works more than 9 hours a day tops (we’re clocking), not notice there is something wrong here? You’re clocking an insane amount of time, you work slow and you don’t get everything assigned to you done. There is an imbalance from both sides and it was so obvious and no one did anything. Both sides should be fired honestly.

Are you the ob/gyn that recommends pregnant people to swap chocolate for broccoli?

Well if you are talking about the end of the first season this wasn’t like she wanted them to die. They all, step by step, without her consent, sacrificed themselves because they knew she was the most powerful and had to go on to have a shot at defeating the dark moon kingdom. If I recall correctly she also dies at the end, and they are all resurrected with amnesia.

Ever since I tried bronze pasta I cannot look at regular pasta the same way. I cannot buy that yellow stuff anymore.

As a fellow up the arse coffee lover - I moved away from drinking fancy coffee every day. Not just because 250 grams are, at best, at 16€ and I drink about 35 grams a day on an average day, but also because it takes away the “specialty” if you drink it daily, regularly, ordinarily. I now have a go to coffee (pre ground even) that I enjoy drinking as my “normal” coffee and treat myself to a cup of specialty every now and then, and a bag now lasts me a month. I enjoy it much more and I save a lot of money - although my go to coffee is also not the cheapest crap.

I also started out with instant coffee btw - took some with me with milk and sugar to school in a small water bottle when I was a young teenager (and girlmore girls was on so I had to get into coffee). Just reading your comment gave me a flashback to being 14 and my mom giving me the “good instant coffee”. Memories and vibes.

There is a documentary about the “it started out with a wank because I broke my arm” guy??

My dad is… complicated, and I could tell a lot of insane stories. But the memory that is haunting me is how he said “we won’t wait when war starts”, in Russian. It made no sense. I overheard it as a part of some conversation with my mother (maybe other grown ups as well) when I was a kid and I asked what he meant and he claimed he didn’t remember saying that. I believe him that he didn’t remember. But it was odd, it’s not something he would say. Neither he, nor my mom, nor their friends are political people talking about war, ever. It was said casually, but no one ever casually talked about war or politics over here. This was 25 years ago. I kept thinking about it for years and years again, trying to grasp what it meant, what it might have meant, and why it stuck with me so much, why I couldn’t get it out of my head, why I couldn’t let it go.

It was also painfully screaming in my head when Russia attacked Ukraine in 2022. It’s like it was an eerie foreshadowing but I still don’t know. I have so few memories of my childhood, why did this one stay? Why do I see and hear him say this? What did he mean with “we won’t wait”? Did he mean we won’t wait for the war to start or we won’t wait when the war will have started? Both are possible interpretations in the Russian wording. What are we waiting for? Are we still waiting? What should we be doing?

I keep going back to this one stupid sentence and this memory is ringing in my ears. What does it want to tell me to do? I know I need to do something, I just can’t figure out what.

Thank you. I was really confused and had to read it a couple of times. A first read made me think the dad started jerking off with an octopus and this went downhill.

There is no such thing as a bad reason for not wanting to drive a car. Any reason that makes you not want to drive a car is valid.

I am rather susceptible to hating actors because of some role they played. I literally hated Hugh Grant for no other reason than him being an asshole to Bridget Jones. I am now scared to watch Gladiator.

Meryl Streep. Oh God Meryl Streep

I know that I need to migrate, nevertheless thank you for making sure I know. What I meant with

How this matters

Is that honestly I don’t see how I am connected to the instance to begin with. I’m trying to find a comparison that expresses what I feel but I fail to find a good one. Like a browser choice? No, there are differences in using firefox vs chrome. Like an email provider? Nah, also a huge difference. Like a remote control? I have come across weirdly designed remote controls though.

But the instance - I have no connection to it whatsoever. It is just a random thing that provides me access to (all instances of) lemmy. I’m not sure I could care less about it.

Maybe the closest I can come up with is the difference between a gmail.account ending in .com or in .de .

But again, maybe I am missing something important here. I’m really tech illiterate and it is not the area I have an innate grasp at. (I used to drop that I have no idea what a router is, how tf the internet works (there are cables at the bottom of the ocean?!) or how code is even doing stuff. The problem is that I always end up with an inbox of people thinking they will be the one to make me understand.)

I’m an absolute noob when it comes to tech and I don’t even know what instance I am on and how this matters to be honest.

Pasta doesn’t lose the majority of its vitamins to its cooking water though. (Mostly because pasta doesn’t have many vitamins to begin with)

I wear a cord jacket from first grade as a bolero (I’m in my mid 30s). I got older stuff but this usually weirds people out.

Apart from the meatballs (and maybe bacon) this sounds like a good pizza to me. I like just a little bit of cheese on my pizza and if I put this in the special order it is like they don’t believe me and add extra cheese. I also like to go heavy on the sauce and add garlic. Did your place have garlic without butter?

To be very honest I just like Pizzabrot but I think they only sell this in Bavaria (whelp).

Marble highway, crown, couch for soft toys, bracelets, easter bunnies, caleidoscope, towers of castles,…

Funnily enough I haven’t thought of binoculars. I’ll try it out today!

That’s beautifully written and very to the point. I wish you well in your search for a partner who takes you as you are and, equally important, who you like as they are.