😂

Reminds me of the show Baskets

Me too.

I spent some formative years in Canada (as an American child/teen) and when I was 17 back in the US for high school, I put a “The Tragically Hip” decal on my locker (free sticker w new album purchase) and a few days later someone had tagged over it / my locker with the word “FAG”

My friends were worried because they saw it before me so they were trying to cover it before I arrived that morning (very sweet). But I was less annoyed about the “fag” tag than just, like, really annoyed bc that the tagger just thought I was trying to call myself hip/cool and didn’t even KNOW the Hip were a band!!! Obviously!!! Otherwise they’d get it!!!

Lol me too

The first therapist I saw happened to be really good, or maybe I was really ready to hear her, possibly both. One thing she mentioned and really affected me at the time: observing how I expressed how guilty I felt about how mad I was about XYZ, that often the “secondary” feelings (guilt) give us more trouble than the primary feeling (anger). This helped me start to drill down into what my actual feeling/reaction to XYZ was, and I could feel less plagued/affected by the guilt/shame/whatev that had been drilled into my head over time (by mom, teachers, whomever).

I went to one therapist in my late 20s for about 6 months, then in mid/late 30s spoke with 2 different psychiatrists and 2 different talk therapists / social workers, plus have experienced 3 different couples counselors (oh joy). Some are not a good fit. I recommend trying someone for a few sessions — at least 3 — and then allowing yourself to try a different person. They will not be offended!

I agree with you about the logistics difficulty. But there are many in power who are pretty clearly working toward implementing those steps lined up above, even as they’re incredibly inefficient and buffoonish. Many people, both “docile” and whatever may be perceived as “out-of-line”-ers, have been punished already, for years, and there’s no sign of stopping from those in power.

To the authoritarian buffoons, the end game is: riches for me, enslavement/extermination for thee, all to run from their weird daddy issues.

me toooo hi 👋

I would too 😆

Also this is mostly all to say, I don’t understand genres past say release year 2005 😅

Sorry I typed Limp Bizmit but meant Bizkit…

It’s not very intuitive, for sure. It really is about if you were there at the time and probably place (up until, say, 2005) hearing XYZ song/style becoming popular on the radio and mass media. Only then do you pick up the lingo and see how other people referred to it.

Plus, go browse the racks at a music store in another country (preferably where the main language is different from your own). I remember seeing a Tower Records in a major Japanese city have a whole area designated as “Black Music” (not like a seasonal feature/display, but a section/‘genre’) and being baffled, like all soul blues funk R&B early rap gangsta rap and dance pop was all one section (filtered only by skin color)? But then again, is all J-pop or K-pop always the same style, or do English-language listeners lump a lot of things together by overarching basic criteria? (Like just shuffling music off based on country/language of origin etc)

Alternative rock was different to the popular rock from on mainstream stations in the 70s/80s and early 90s. See also “college rock.” But then alternative rock becomes mainstream and fractures into subgenres (for example, compare Limp Bizmit once called “nü rock” and White Stripes “garage rock” — fairly different styles), less mainstream artists continue plugging away in their various “indie” lanes, plus what does “college rock” (like REM of the 80s) mean in the 2010s/2020s anyway? Short answer: big fat nothing; long answer is, first you start doing deep dives in music journalism of yore, browsing the categories/sections at record stores, talk to old music heads and hear their opinions (mostly opinions, right, less ‘facts’), and then you have a better lay of the many various musical landscapes and keep exploring.

Hypothetically, if they are truly professional and in operations rather than being analysts, etc., they would leave work at work but basically be too exhausted to truly helicopter-parent at home. I’m projecting a bit though, because once you become a parent you are exhausted beyond belief (substitute “I” for all those “you”s, heh)

Depends on the generation of the parent too, I think (have they kept up with modern surveillance technologies?). If you haven’t watched the TV show “The Americans” it could be interesting. Set in the 80s but there’s two kid/teen children of agents in it, so secrets kind of start going both ways

Congrats :-) Thanks for context/inspo, I might try to do the same.

Dang, what makes you think so? I was put on 20mg then I asked to downgrade to 10mg the past few years, still now. I suspected it wasn’t helping but also have some circumstances (aging, small children, etc) that also seem to contribute to my mind being a bowl of soup, so I’m never sure what’s causing what…

Waiting to see what others answer because got no actual hobbies since having kids…