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Cake day: July 8th, 2023

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  • The weight has changed much more in sizing than height is likely to since it’s easy to gain/lose weight compared to gaining or losing height; it’s why I mentioned my percentiles. The links seemed like decently recent data so you wouldn’t expect someone in my percentiles to be so strangely missized unless sizing was just flat wrong or targeted to certain body shapes in the last 10-ish years.

    My basic experience and data seems to point to height determining size much less than weight now does, which for those of us not rapidly changing weights puts us in a strange spot. There are also many more different global clothes manufacturers than there used to be I’d guess and maybe the newer ones still have no idea how to size for new geographies/cultures? Just guessing.



  • Your co-workers are triangulating. It may be for a combination of various reasons:

    1. They have tried and failed in the past
    2. They are scared of rejection, retribution, etc. consciously or unconsciously and it’s easy to volunteer someone else
    3. You are really charismatic and/or great at your job and they think you have new ideas that will work

    Triangulation is used to avoid conflict. Many people come to others in life, looking to have that person take on yhrir problems through triangulation. It’s generally not effective: it disempowers the requestor/initiator by giving responsibility for resolution of the issue to someone else, who may not before likely to solve it, and can but actually make things much worse.

    Encourage them to see how they can play a role in solving the problem. Do it together if you want to help but don’t be their “superman”.







  • There are few social spaces where people can meet in healthy ways without having to pay some private entity for the privilege.

    The rungs of society have never been further apart, nor has it ever been more transparent.

    Education has been systematically underfunded for 50+ years, the economy in accelerative wealth concentration. Adults suffer and the home environments for children suffer.

    I can’t stand street racing, and barely drive unless forced to but it’s not hard to understand why many would find a somewhat cheap thrill attractive when their lives are filled with hopelessness or despair.



  • Waterloo.

    Napoleon’s tactical errors leading to a ton of his skilled and valuable horse soldiers self inflicting and defeating themselves basically made it easy for wellington to triumph though he did enough to earn the w. That is just from memory 20 years ago when I read from Les Miserables, there is like a 100 page section–maybe 150 just on the battle of Waterloo which isn’t that critically tied for the plot. Victor fucking Hugo, ladies and gentlemen.

    Napoleon’s defeat led to alliances across Europe for protection, which led to WW1, which guaranteed WW2 due to unsustainable concessions for Germans leading to Hitler’s rise, which led to USA being gifted a churning economy almost undamaged and populace relatively unscarred by war compared to devastated Europe. Baby boom, relatively equal wealth distribution and a GI bill built the US might that is now imploding under it’s own fetid weight of corruption and ignorance, as many empires fall to, but it’s all pretty linear imo from Napoleon.


  • I remember learning a statistic in the early aughts that only 17% of US households were married man/woman married with child(ren), when so much of media and societal representation and expectations was based around norms from the 1950s or earlier. Society changed for real in the US mid century, and continued to evolve; single parents, adults with no children, skipping marriage, same sex and/or other sex/gender/orientation households, but the christian-facist propaganda kept up.

    Just remember, something as basic as “what is a home or family group”, the “standard” or “normal” is less than 1 out of 5. It’s actually the exception! This applies elsewhere.

    Don’t discount imposter syndrome, it’s powerful. We’re all, mostly, normal.