Conservative/right-wing views have absolutely nothing to do with it in my books.

This is a smaller community with seemingly slightly more accountability, or at a minimum, decency and respect for our fellow humans and internet citizens. The majority of the animals on reddit because behave like 10 year olds in a COD lobby - hiding behind internet anonymity to act like complete assholes, and be as rude and disrespectful as they possibly can, because they believe there will be no consequences.

When I see someone behaving like that, seemingly unable to carry on a civil conversation, I do not hesitate to suggest that they go back to Reddit if they’re going to behave like those people. We do NOT want this community to devolve to that level. It is not a serious suggestion that they return there - it’s more so an invitation to examine their behavior, and maybe take a step back, and look at this community overall vs. that community overall, and give some consideration to maybe behaving like a mature adult instead. Spelling it out that way when dealing with those kinds of people typically just encourages them to double down though, so it gets wrapped up in that little retort instead.

Fair, and same here! Here’s hoping we cross paths again :-)

To be fair I am talking about like, 2000-2010 here lol.

Though I remember having a social outing just a couple years ago at my current job, and I remember my team mate and I’d say pretty good friend (who again, only met through work, but we clicked and connected) telling me after that he was really into this one girl that was there, and then a week or so later updating me that he’d asked her out but she wasn’t interested and he was (obviously) leaving it at that … and he’s quite young, I’d say mid-20s.

I do probably give off the “feel free to talk to me about casual and personal stuff” vibe though as I 100% loathe and reject the whole ‘corporate culture’ bs, and I currently work at the stuffiest most uptight place I’ve EVER worked at, lol.

Also tech industry, so I think we’re generally a lot more casual? No idea! :-)

We were having a perfectly civil discourse (and I’m not sure where that downvote came from, but it wasn’t me) … I’m sad to see these messages deleted. :-(

I’ve been through my share of large ISPs, telecoms and financial institutions in the last 28 years I’ve been working full time and not one of them has had a policy like this. At more than a couple of them it was not uncommon at all to have MANY husbands and wives working for the same company, in the same building, and they met at that company. It was downright shocking to me sometimes to be like “woa, wait, that dude on that other team is married to your SISTER? WHAT?!” Like rabbits just all over each other and very entrenched in each other’s lives. :shrug:

She doesn’t know that I know he asked her out, I would imagine. Would be kind of awkward to bring up as I haven’t even asked her out yet. lol

Oooohhhh, yeah… that throws a wrench in to it. I will ponder and reply again if anything magical comes to mind (highly unlikely!)

Good luck!

Virtually every larger company has rules against romantic work relationships.

This is false.

They have rules against people dating subordinates, 100%.

Confiding your love affairs to your boss is such a red flag though. No one does that.

Disagree. One can have a “boss”, or one can have a “manager.” My entire career I’ve tried to get to know the people around me, my manager, my director, my peers, other random people - everyone I can. I spend a LOT of time with these people, and everything being “professional” 24/7 is draining. We’re all real people, with real lives, real interests, hobbies, etc. - and the happiest I’ve ever been while working is when I was surrounded by people I wouldn’t hesitate to call “friends”, and that includes discussion personal issues often - maybe not quite as much as I would with say, a friend from high school, but close.

Related - I married a ‘girl from work’ many years ago, and the person who was both our manager when we got together, and still my manager when we had the wedding, was one of my groomsmen. I did not know this man before starting that job, but spending more time with him and interacting with him more than my ‘high school friends’, by a LOT, over those four YEARS, meant we easily became at least 80% as close as I was with any of my outside-of-work friends.

Edit: And I actually just remembered, said manager met his wife at work too! They are still happily married unlike my ex and I (who are happily divorced and have the best/healthiest relationship that we’ve ever had now.)

Threesome!

Joking, obviously. Seriously though, on paper, I’d discuss it with her openly and honestly, say I’m interested, but it might be better if we wait until John moves on, either to a new job, or a new girl. In reality, I’d probably just do nothing, not having the courage to talk to Jane about it.

There’s a rule… there’s a reason it’s a rule…

Half plus seven.

I didn’t come up with it, but it seems to work out pretty good across the board, and it’s known by most men that I’ve talked to.

48-50 works out to 31-32, MINIMUM acceptable age.

Anything younger is officially creepy.

Yeah I’ve seen it go both ways before. Ideally they just send out some blanket memo “reminding people of our policy on $x” and everyone who may be doing something even a little questionable wonders if it’s about them and adjusts their behaviour.

I actually just had that this week - we had a team thing and our director reminded us about “team norms” and blah blah, and I knew exactly why he was doing it, and who and what the real problem was - but other random people started showing up to meetings on time and such - because they all thought “oh crap, did someone complain about me?”

But, as said, you have zero control over what they do, so sadly it could go either way.

Coffee delivery. I use a fairly consistent amount, so I don’t get as overloaded/running out as some other things I’ve tried to subscribe to - and it lets me bypass “big grocery”, and get better quality product directly from the roaster/blender.

I used to love doing that. The gym is so much quieter and empty at that time too. It was messing with my sleep though getting myself that amped up that late at night :(

Thank you. My day has been made.

Almost had coffee come out my nose too!

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I did ‘compressed’ a lot MANY years ago, like, almost 25 … life was SO much better. Putting in an extra 2h a day feels like nothing - but getting a WHOLE EXTRA DAY OFF is like 50% more weekend. That was also pre-“you can order literally everything on the internet”, so there was a lot of running around and “weekend chores”/shopping etc. to be done in a standard week - and you were able to instead do those things on your ‘3rd day’ when stuff wasn’t so busy.

It was the happiest I’ve ever been in almost 30 years of working full time.

Big time red flag, bad boss, needs manager training, or basic human decency training.

Maybe you did… you just didn’t know it was you and it had no major impact on you, so you don’t remember it!

Any and all quick fixes will not work if you do not address the underlying issues - the weight will just come back.

Many people have had great success with GLP-1 drugs. You should consult a medical professional though for a qualified opinion and to ensure they won’t conflict with anything else you have going on.

I used to be 10 pounds under weight and about 10% body fat. I’m now so overweight I can barely muster the energy to cook healthy meals to try to stem the problem, and forget entirely about working out. I’ve been on GLP-1 (WeGovy) for two months now and the change is significant - it is much easier for me to say no to bad food (which my family still surrounds me with and shoves in my face constantly), and I’m less inclined to take, say, four slices of pizza - I’ll instead take two, and when I’m done, I don’t even bother going back for more (and this applies to other food as well.) My long term goals are structured roughly around - lose enough of the weight that my body is no longer constantly just fighting and burning all my energy to stay alive and keep my organs working - flip that energy into physical activity and/or healthy food prep - and then as things start to snowball, incorporate the other (physical activity or food prep, whichever is still outstanding). I’m only down a handful of pounds so far as the ramp-up time on the drug is quite long, but I already feel better about myself, generally feel better every day now than I did before, and most importantly have hope and think I can see a light at the end of the tunnel.

It is a tunnel though - and it is a long journey, no matter how you do it. I don’t expect any significant results for at least a year, and even then I’ll still have a ways to go. Nothing short of fundamental and sustained changes can produce positive, healthy results that will stick around though.