If you haven’t seen it I’ll recommend you give Devs a watch. It’s a compelling take on a similar theme.

It is also a sexual innuendo.

Just 3D print a save icon (thingiverse).

I’d argue that isn’t even dark humor. The joke’s focal point is how ridiculous your mother’s position is. You’re taking up an untenable and patently absurd position in faux support of the initial absurd position. That’s ridicule. Now I will grant that lampooning a rhetorical opponent’s position can lean “dark”. Unless the punchline relies on taboo for the heavy lifting though it isn’t crossing that line.

You didn’t say anything offensive or taboo. You criticised someone’s bad take using contemptous analytic hyperbole. I grew up with this kind of humor in my family. It was mostly used as a learning tool which avoided direct confrontation of idiocy while allowing the temporarily embarassed idiot to save face, realize they weren’t thinking clearly, and choose to be in on the joke at their old self’s expense. There are other choices, or course, but if you chose to die on mount stupid then you’d better expect to get buried underneath it as well.

Your family doesn’t seem to be receptive to that brand of social therapy. That’s ok. My point is more to encourage you that you didn’t do anything wrong (and that it’s even normal to joke like that elsewhere).

Your mom might not think you’re funny… But I do!

No, silly, you’re thinking of Ken from MXC (and right you are, Luddite). Schwifty-Five is just a song.

I’m a fan of NestedText. It’s no panacea but I’d argue it’s the most well-considered and useful file format for structured data in plain text.

They seem to be in bed with livekit.io and OpenAI. They’re also still using Telegram and X. That means Huly isn’t a fit replacement for anything.

One way this question could be interpreted and restated is: Trans people don’t have blanket immunity against critique, right?

If that is the legitimate heart of your question then: No. They do not. No one does.

Let’s say some puppy kicker happens to be trans. I publically and vocally oppose their puppy kicking. They respond by labeling me transphobic. That’s nothing more than a weak response from a bad person using their minority status as a cover for their shitty behavior/beliefs.

That said, and I cannot stress this enough; that is not how your question reads and the above is an overly charitable interpretation.

If that is not the legitimate heart of your question then all I can do is refer you to the bible: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

This can be true and the example you’ve provided demonstrates the point well enough. There are certainly unhelpful emotions though. I have a panic disorder which can be triggered by a few things. I’m already aware of why this happens and understand that my fear, paranoia, and sense of impending doom are byproducts of chemical imbalance. I know they’re trying to help me survive an expected threat that doesn’t exist. Those experiences offer no actionable insight. Only disruption.

It helps if I’m able to recognize that emotional reactivity as bad and worth breathing through instead of addressing or intellectualizing. They’re just bad and need to pass so I can get back to being me.

This is an edge case and most emotional processing is trying to tell us something helpful. Not always though!

As long as it’s consensual I guess objectification is ok.

The use of currency in an open market is not Capitalism. This conflation is propaganda used by Capitalists to further the “Capitalism is a Natural state” fairy tale.

“01100110 01110101 01100011 01101011 00100000 01111001 01101111 01110101”

If I must trade one thing to get another then what I recieve is not free.

You’ve got some excellent replies to this question already. I want to add something a therapist told me about therapy that I’ve found helpful.

Therapy isn’t about fixing everything that’s “wrong”. It’s mostly about identifying coping mechanisms we developed during childhood which no longer work for us as adults. Different techniques are used to help clients start opening up to doing therapeutic work or starting it in earnest. The goal though, regardless of the technique, is for the client to know themselves better and use that knowledge to build better emotional and social tools. To replace the coping mechanisms we’ve outgrown with better ones.

A comparison I’ve made is that therapy is like working with an occupational therapist. What’s “best” is conditional and is often usefully defined by what we find difficult or limiting. The best way to pick up something we’ve dropped varies person to person. The important bit is having healthy ways of picking it up again (with or without direct assistance).

Therapy ought to focus on self-understanding which helps us function in reality. In my experience most modern therapists advocate for this even if they aren’t forward about it.

Any therapist who councils you to capitulate to narcissists or ignore your disability should be reported to the relevant licensing authority for negligence at a minimum.

Absolutely. VMs and Containers are the wise sysadmin’s friends. Instead of rolling my own ip blocker I use Fail2Ban on public-facing machines. It’s invaluable.

That sounds pretty good to me for self-hosted services you’re running just for you and yours. The only addition I have on the DR front is implementing an off-site backup as well. I prefer restic for file-level backups, Proxmox Backup Server for image backups (clonezilla works in a pinch), and Backblaze B2 for off-site storage. They’re reliable and reasonably priced. If a third party service isn’t in the cards then get a second SSD and put it in a safety deposit box or bury it on the other side of town or something. Swap the two backup disks once a month.

The point is to make sure you’re following the 3-2-1 principal. Three copies of your data. Two different storage mediums. One remote location (at least). If disaster strikes and your home disappears you want something to restore from rather than losing absolutely everything.

Extending your current set up to ship the external SSD’s contents out to B2 would likely just be pointing rsync at your B2 bucket and scheduling a cron or systemd timer to run it.

After that if you’re itching for more I’d suggest reading/watching some Red Team content like the stuff at hacker101 dot com and sans dot org. OWASP dot org is also building some neat educational tools. Getting a better understanding of the what and why around internet background noise and threat actor patterns is powerful.

You could also play around with Wazuh if you want to launch straight into the Blue Team weeds. Education of the attacking side is essential for us to be effective as defenders but deeper learning anywhere across the spectrum is always a good thing. Standing up a full blown SIEM XDR, for free, offers a lot of education.

P. S. I realize this is all tangential to your OP. I don’t care for the grizzled killjoys who chime in with “that’s dumb don’t do that” or similar, offer little helpful insight, and trot off arrogantly over the horizon on their high horse. I wanted to be sure I offered actionable suggestions for improvement and was tangibly helpful.

You can meaningfully portscan the entire internet in a trivial amount of time. Security by obscurity doesn’t work. You just get blindsided. Switching to a non-standard port cleans the logs up because most of the background noise targets standard ports.

It sounds like you’re doing alright so far. Trying not to get got is only part of the puzzle though. You also ought to have a backup and recovery strategy (one tactic is not a strategy). Figuring out how to turn worst-case scenarios into solvable annoyances instead of apocalypse is another (and almost equally as important). If you’re trying to increase your resiliency, and if your Disaster Recovery isn’t fully baked yet, then I’d toss effort that way.

Our health, in all aspects, is in our own hands.

Finding a psychiatrist, general practitioner, oncologist, etc, who understands this and is interested in having a professional working relationship with their patients is the key to receiving tangible medicinal and therapeutic benefit from their expertise. The dehumanization and indignity common in that process isn’t talked about enough and we’re right to call attention to it and demand better.

There’s a whole separate conversation about the industry of healthcare hidden in the subtext here (and so much more so if you’re in the United States) but the principal is the same regardless. Expert diagnosticians can provide immense value when given appropriate tools and the space to use them. Capitalization and Industrialization mandate standardization which leaves little room for complex problem solving and edge cases.

I’m not arguing this excuses the constant malpractice. It doesn’t because it can’t. It can provide a framework for understanding and fighting back against its normalization though and I’ve found that helpful. At least in conversation.

Another aspect of this that I don’t think is reducible in the same way is our proclivity for taxonomic coherence. I think it’s one of our species’ better qualities and that we let it drive us to premature conclusions about the rightness of the models we construct. The DSM is no exception. An effort may be well intentioned and still fall into the same traps and hurdles that bias and ego litter about. I’m not an anthropologist or historian but I have a pet theory that this phenomenon is also the root of delusion and dogma. We’re adept at self-deception en masse. Doubly so when protecting our perceived identities to avoid social shame.

If the school still exists, and you’re interested in finding out, you could contact and ask for a copy of your school records. Any school(s) you transferred to afterward should have those records as well.

The record keeping is mostly guided by FERPA (like HIPPA for public schools). How long records are kept varies by State but most of them mandate 50+ years or longer. Those that don’t also lack enforcement for destruction and people are lazy so… You’ll usually find something even if it’s not all the info you wanted.

They’re obligated by law to provide the records you’re entitled to within 45 days of the request.

You may not be that interested but I figured if you, or someone else reading this, are sufficiently interested then this info might be helpful.

Agreed. Check out Grayjay: https://grayjay.app/ https://gitlab.futo.org/videostreaming/grayjay

It’s a client for following creators across platforms while the user retains control. YouTube is one of the platforms Grayjay can access but you don’t have to let YouTube play adverts, track you, etc. It lets users turn the screen off and keep playing audio, bypass intros or sponsored ads, download whole videos, and other quality of life features.

You can also avoid YouTube entirely and only stream from PeerTube, NewPipe, SoundCloud, etc. You just tap the plugins you want and it respects your choices.

It’s still under active development during an ongoing arms race with YouTube but I’ve been using it for over a year and have only encountered two bugs that kept me from using it. It’s been a refreshing experience overall and I find myself watching more of the stuff I care about, more meaningfully supporting the artists I care about, and disallowing Google to abuse those interactions.

I’m not affiliated with them in any way. Just a happy convert.