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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I am what you would call a technology enthusiast, or what some people have dubbed as a gadget whore. I love little electronic devices that make my life easier. However, at no time in my life, will I ever need or desire a toothbrush that needs WiFi access or a subscription to some service. It really isn’t necessary or even useful. It’s like the old comic about the toilet that needs a phone app.










  • Let me preface this by saying I’m American so I’m not sure of the cultural differences. Since male pattern baldness is pretty common I suspect this advice is pretty universal. But as a man who’s been bald since his mid 20s, first thing I’d do is shave my head to see if you like the look. You might be ok with it.

    Here’s the thing. Unless you have Elon Musk kind of money, there isn’t much you’ll be able to do other than prolong the inevitable. Do not go down the route of hair plugs, weaves, wigs, toupees, etc. You’ll always be that guy that people talk about with the hair issues. Kinda like those people that go too far with the plastic surgery. I had an old roommate who was very self conscious of being bald and did the hair club for men thing where they glue some sort of mat to your head and “sew” hair into it. It never looked right. Especially when he woke up in the morning. Your best bet as far as your looks are to control the things you can do something about. Work out, keep well groomed, take care of your teeth, learn to dress well, read something besides social media posts, start cool hobbies.

    If I learned anything in my 50+ years, the hair issues are so not important. I shave my head every morning so I never have to pay for a haircut, I never have a bad hair day, and when my wife runs her fingernails lightly over my head, it’s sends electric shocks down my spine. There are downsides, however. Sunburns really suck. I’m constantly putting little nicks in my head because the hair acts like a very good protective layer.

    Long story short, since there isn’t a cure yet your best bet is learn to accept it.

    Hope this helps.








  • I’m 54 and my backs hurts when I’ve been doing lots of physical activities I don’t normally do, like digging or anything not upright for several hours. But this pain is more inconvenient than anything. Like it’s uncomfortable to sleep, a sudden sharp thing like my body is saying “don’t do that dumbass!”, or more like sciatica and taking a shit hurts.

    What your describing is definitely not normal and should be looked at for sure.


  • I know this isn’t super helpful right now but hear me out.

    This has been many many years ago but I went through a separation for over a year, got back together, and then eventually divorced. Swore I would never put my kid through what I went through as a kid but ended up doing it anyway. Absolute worst pain I’d ever felt at the time. Lost my house, went without a car for a while. Had to move back in with my mom. Pain eventually started to subside. Met another wonderful woman. Eventually got married again. My life is way better now than what I would have been had I stayed married to my now ex. What was absolutely the most horrible thing I’d ever felt, barely even registers now.

    Eventually the pain will go away. But as a therapist once told me, the only way to get over the pain is to go through it. In 20 years, you’ll barely remember it.



  • Money means different things to different people. Look at it this way:

    A person is a billionaire and they buy your son a car worth $90k. That would be equivalent to if you make $100k and decide to purchase something for $9. Would you care if your son spent $9 on a friend?

    I understand your reservations as I would have them too. But keep in mind, giving your kid that kind of access to a network of that level is priceless. As long as the friend isn’t making your son feel subservient or lesser in any way, I’d leave it be.

    My only concern is that kids that come from that kind of money, have access to very expensive lawyers, and therefore take risks most people wouldn’t take. I have seen it happen in person where I live (well used to live). It was an affluent neighborhood and sometimes the kids of these affluent people were complete obnoxious assholes. Not all of them, but definitely a statistically significant portion. That’s what I would be more concerned with. Just my 2¢.