Not who you’re asking, but I wouldn’t have wanted to be born cis

Me. Before I transitioned, and in my early days of transition, sure, I’d have made that choice if it were available to me. But now, years in? Fuck no. I don’t want to be cis.

Apologies if this question comes off as insulting, but just to confirm, if you’re shooting manual, when you adjust the ISO to keep the exposure value the same right? The photo you’ve got there looks slightly underexposed to me

That being said, assuming you are keeping the exposure value equal, then conventional wisdom says that you get slightly less contrast (including colour contrast) with a wide open aperture. So if you set the ISO faster, and don’t change your shutter speed, your aperture will be smaller, and you should be getting more colour contrast.

On top of that, each lens has its own “sweet spot” where it gives you the best image quality (sharpness, contrast, saturation etc) generally but not always somewhere around f/8.

So if you haven’t already, true adjusting your ISO to 160, and getting your aperture as close to f/8 as you can, and adjust the shutter speed to achieve that.

It sounds like a similar situation I had learning Spanish. In english, I’d say “It’s hot”. In Spanish, that’s “Hace calor”, which translated literally means “makes heat”. And it was strange to me because I wanted to know what was meant to be making this heat

Do you need to be an activist? Absolutely not. You have a chance to live on your own terms in a world that made that really hard. You don’t owe it anything.

That being said… Visibility makes a huge difference, and it’s super important that some vulnerable folk are visible and loud. But remember, they’re the ones putting themselves on the line, so that in the future, it won’t be as bad for those that follow, and that needs to be respected.

For me, being trans was always just a medical issue

This isn’t helpful. Whether you see it that way or not, being trans is not “just a medical issue”. The fact that you were able to live your life as if it were, gives you a position of relative privilege that most trans people don’t share. The truth is, if you get publicly outed one day, it won’t just be a medical issue for you either. So whilst you don’t have to be an activist, you shouldn’t be downplaying the reality that other trans folk do have to face, and honestly, you shouldn’t be pretending to yourself that you are immune to them either.

Live your life on your own terms, and do so without guilt. But even if it’s just in the privacy of your own thoughts, make sure you build your visible peers up rather than mentally separating yourself from them

The best help you can give someone in distress is hearing them, whilst you redirect them to a place that can help with empathy and compassion.

Any form of automated message comes across as the exact opposite of empathy and compassion.

In addition, speaking as the admin of a trans and queer community, I don’t have any special tools or abilities to help people. Sending the report to me doesn’t let me help them, because they’re almost certainly not in my country, and I don’t have any special access that enables me to contact them or reach out to them. The tool I do have, is the instance itself that we host, that allows people to connect with their community and their peers, that allows them to struggle, and that shuts down anyone who would try and add to the hurt of someone on the edge.

Which is to say, I don’t think a reddit style feature has a place here. It will let people think they’re helping, without actually doing so, as well as providing a new vector for abuse (though that would be less of an issue than on reddit). In theory, an automated list of resources that could be called on could be useful, but again, if someone is struggling, they need to feel heard, and automated replies can come across as dispassionate and uncaring.

Thank you! I’ll be watching with great interest! Lots of potential :)

A couple of questions. If I was trying to keep a consistent workspace to build a community around, would it be persistent after the host logs off, and are their tools to protect it from trolls etc who discover it a workspace?

Westworld

My RC hovercraft! I loved that thing, but it had such a short battery life, it was basically unusable

The hot water tap in my shower turned itself completely off one day.

The whole gender thing? And I say that as a trans person. It’s real, but I can’t explain it…

That feels off somehow, or at least, the unsolved problem part isn’t as narrow as that makes it seem.

I can recognise a place, just like a face. I don’t eliminate options, I just recognise it. I can recognise voices the same way.

I don’t understand how faces are different in this context?

It’s not so much that lemmy doesn’t keep it. JPG and WebP files themselves are limited to about 8 stops of dynamic range, so it doesn’t matter where you upload them, they’re not going to give you the same dynamic range you had in post processing from a RAW file

Comprehensible input! Start with simple content in that language you’re trying to learn, without any use of languages you understand. And then try and actively understand what you’re hearing, and work out how it all fits together!

Friendica, and to a lesser extent, misskey and it’s forks

Faux outrage isn’t playing around though. They’re not doing it for fun, they’re doing it for social capital.

As an instance admin, if I regularly see reports for a local community that break community rules but not instance rules that sit without action for 24 hours or more, that’s when I’ll get involved with the community to try and get more active mods.

If the reports are for posts that break instance rules, I’ll action them whether or not there are local mods active.

This is all an interesting hypothetical to you. To me, it’s my lived life. Trust me, I’ve done what you’re talking about. I was active in /r/changemyview, and I’ve spent a lot of time having this discussion with people on social media.

And in that time, not a single person has changed their perspective or view on the topic. Because they already had a view, and despite the ostensible goal of the sub, they’re largely not open to changing their view. They may want to, but they’re not actually willing to change it. Because ultimately, people arrived at their “concerns” through emotional manipulation, and that can’t be undone by “rational discussion”. Like sure, maybe you’re the single exception, and in my 5+ years of having this discussion, you might be the first to genuinely change your opinion. But even then, after 5 years of normalising the idea that my rights are up for discussion, as if it’s actually ok for people to want them removed because of their “concerns”, I’d have a single changed mind in 5 years.

But you know what else I’ve done in those 5 years? I’ve told every other person that I’ve had this discussion with that it’s actually ok to debate my rights, that whether or not I deserve rights is based on how well I can debate and argue. And I’ve given the bigots driving this whole discussion exactly what they wanted, which is to make myself a target.

Fuck that.

So what does it say about me? It says I’ve got more lived experience in navigating this topic than you ever will, and I’m no longer willing to see “civil discussion” on the erasure of peoples rights, in the pointless hope that it will actually help us. Because it doesn’t.

That argument would be torn apart pretty easily

Sure. The argument can be torn apart. But that doesn’t change anything. What changes when you make those sorts of arguments is simply that it gives a green light to pushing back against marginalised people.

If argument being torn apart was enough, the argument against trans folk in sport wouldn’t even be an argument. But it is, because there is a political interest in creating harmful narratives about trans folk, and using exclusion from sport as a wedge to normalise exclusion in other areas. Which is exactly what is happening.

So if you’re ok with that sort of question, I think you need to spend a bit more time looking at the context those questions exist in. Why is it now that people want to suddenly talk about trans people in sports. It’s not because the trans folk have been doing anything different. It’s because there is an explicit motivation to create a culture war, with trans folk as the targets. You shouldn’t be ok with being part of that.

I’m not asking you to argue about it. I explicitly don’t want people arguing about it, which I was hoping my previous comment would make clear.

There are people out there that were raised a certain way that want to change or perhaps have questions due to ignorance on the topic. By being combative, you’re doing more harm than good for something you clearly care about.

If someone turns against all trans people because they encounter a single angry trans person, then they were just looking for an excuse to justify what they already felt.

And it’s not my job to play nice with the people trying to erase my rights in the hope that maybe, just maybe, they’ll stop what they’re doing! That doesn’t work. That has never worked. Every single civil right gain has been made by pushing back.

So thanks for the advice, but I’ll keep pushing back