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  • We were on opposite shifts, both supervisors. During shift turnover the very first he thing he would do is go thru workload and nitpick “why didn’t you do this?” and then continually question my response “well you could have just cloned yourself into two people?” basically he was never happy with our work unless-really he was unhappy and blamed me directly if there was any work at all for him to do during day shift. Then, he would complain to the bigger boss all day long about we were lazy. Meanwhile when I cam in to turnover I basically never did this and would just what the workload was and so my other things before letting them go.

    If I did try to argue “why didnt you do x” it almost inevitably ended with the bigger boss telling me to fuck off and that they “worked so hard”, they didn’t.

    And it just went on and on like this. He loved to take credit for other people’s work, wouldn’t take responsibility for his own mistakes, would avoid direct confrontation if a bigger boss wasn’t around to back him up, basically I strongly disliked him and his lack of good faith teamwork.


  • True

    Well I really like both the accoustic and original Sonething Human. I also like Drones (song in particular), Newborn, oh and I quite like all of the alternative song versions towards the end of 20th Century edition of Absolution Album

    The intro to be with you sounds like it might up my alleyway

    Maybe I’m just being obtuse but I really feel Matt Bellamy has the skill to be amongst the greatest artist (at lesst in pop/rock) but its like hes just not getting at it the right way or something. Its like hes edging greatness and that is frustrating


  • I think I listened to Cryogen and wasnt a huge fan but I’ll definitely see about the others.

    Also it seems ones.enjoyment of a song tends to grow parabolically with time so if I really wanted I could just listen to it a lot and eventually id like it. Im experiencing this with Tool now. Never used to like them really but I have been enjoying the Aenima album



  • If I make a to do list I almost inevitably add completely unnecessary fluff.

    Such as

    -remove winter clothing, wash, dry, refold -Delete old emails and create new email / up date subscriptions / cancel subscriptions -Relearn polynomial equations -memorize birds common in (my area) -learn how to identify trees in (my area) And then -Pay off credit card debt [doesnt seem as worthwhile compared to relearning polynomial despite it’s abject greater practicality and value]


  • I never thought I had ADHD until recently. About a month ago or something I was diagnosed. I have: however, for all of my life struggled apparently more than my peers. I couldn’t focus, I had meltdowns learning math and reading, (crying, yelling, shutting down ) I’m late places, Im often late to turn in work things or previously school things. After work 80%-90% of the time I feel completely numb, wasted, tired, and a little (or a lot) depressed.

    The memes and the mental health awareness zeitgeist, I think helped me connect the dots where I used to believe it was just depression and a lack of motivation and or discipline and also a lack of socialization at the right ages resulting in less social skills and less self confidence.


  • I exist mostly without relationships. I can barely fathom living with one romantic person. If that person then was able to execute sexual acts with others on a regular basis with relative ease I dont think we’d be compatible because our lives would be too different, experiences too different.

    I can imagine, however, a different scenario wherein both of us pay for professional, independent sex workers occasionally-primarily themselves that are also adept in therapeutic massage. Maybe. But still it does seem like an odd zeitgeist for romantic relationships right now.






  • I find taxes, for example, to be inconsequential, immediately. I also find taxes to be…I cannot start until I get every iota of paperwork needed and not needed but deemed important by myself for unknown reasons. And then I dont get those papers, or I do but I dont actually get the papers I need only the accessory things I felt very important. Somewhat overwhelming when combined with other tasks. “Gotta do taxes” “but i NEED to so laundry” “gotta fold clothes, BUT I dont really” so on and so fourth.

    Thank you for your reply. I suppose what I need to do is be more mindful of symptoms and ‘watch myself more closely’ until the assessment.

    I do find moving my toes up and down is comforting, sometimes rocking my upper torso (when i know im not being observed) is also comforting. But it feels natural like probably everyone does that a little bit. Especially when very stressed.

    The social criteria is the main mover or primary motivation for seeking diagnoses. I dont know if it this or that disorder but I have always felt different amd been described in various ways as being different. I find it bery hard to imagine how one can meet friends, maintain friends, let alone have a long term romantic partner who lives in the same household. I never make eye contact as it makes it me lose my train of thought.Eye contact seems like a thing that is directly opposed to meaningful conversation, how can anyone focus and fully flesh out a thought when staring at a goblet of eye. I do feel as though I have higher than average knowledge of how others feel or what their emotions are when speaking to them. I believe this to be an adaptation based on my life.

    A mannerism I’ve been called out on is that my vocal volume is so low thst people cannot hear me and then I will begin to shout a few randomly. This is because I randomly remember that I am prone to speaking too quietly. This has resulted in comedic situations, and people being genuinely upset (angry) thst I was yelling at them.

    Thanks foe the reply


  • Ah this was a thorough reply.

    The memes are fairly relatable.

    No one has diagnosed me. I am speaking to a psychologist whom I specifically asked for an autism and ADHD diagnoses. Im awaiting the actual assessment after filling out a bunch of papers.

    A lot his questions like: do you often not hear your name? Do you find a particular texture uncomfortable? I am find myselfing answering no. It has happened, I believe several times, but its hard to recall these things. The only stimulation I find quite irritable is like a club atmosphere and large crowds in grocery stores or other brightly lit clinical settings eith crowds. Clubs make me feel immediately irritable and tired amd stressed






  • I love Indoor climbing

    My gym has a few crack features, crack climbing is a niche within a niche. It is very different from face (‘regular’) rock climbing. It sucks yoyr energy out like typhoon would hit something with a lot of force. Feels like wrestling or mountain climbing (as opposed to rock climbing).

    It’s super fun though, its just very humbling for a face climber or a boulderer like myself.

    I would say most indoor climbers to not do crack. Crack is for outdoors people and then a lot outdoors people probably avoid crack as well.

    Me? When I do have a belay partner im jamming my hands in that crack and not even finishing, it feels grueling its very satisfying.