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Cake day: August 13th, 2025

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  • Trans woman here. If you’re close with me, and I bring up something about my transition, then acknowledging that and the “that’s awesome” part you’re talking about is good.

    If you’re simply commenting on my clothes or something, unsolicited, then simply treat me as you would any other woman.

    I’m privileged enough to pass as cis without really doing anything special so this doesn’t come up often, but it’d feel weird, uncomfortable, or condescending, and possibly make me feel unsafe coming from a stranger. Now, if I were out wearing trans pride colors or something like that, then acknowledging that in a positive way would be welcome and cool.

    Also, as others have pointed out, transsexual is a rather dated term and is generally has negative connotations. The correct term is transgender.

    TLDR: Treat us as you would any other person. If you like my outfit or something, and you’d say it to a cis person wearing it then that’s good. If you wouldn’t say it to a cis person, you probably shouldn’t say it to a trans person.