The Murder of Roger Ackroyd. I was going to complain about having to only choose one book before realizing that it pretty much always came back to that. The honorable mentions are all stuff that comes with a message like The Giver or The Samurai’s Garden, which I do recommend. But I’m a sucker for a good mystery and TMORA was a good exercise in thinking outside of the box.
I think what people see as wrong with it is these sorts of gestures are usually actually shaving your hair off in support. As a way of saying you’re in this together and there to support the individual. This method comes off as disingenuous because you can just take the cap off and go back to your normal life, the other person can’t.
Ultimately it’s between them, but if you’re going to publicize it. It comes off as shallow and an attempt at making yourself a part of someone else’s illness