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Cake day: April 8th, 2026

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  • You only feed your cats once a day?

    We feed ours wet food twice daily and keep a dry kibble feeder bowl out 24/7.
    Buuut, we do not feed them when we wake up. They get fed after the rest of the morning routine is done.
    (We’ve inadvertently tested this - we had a friend stay with us and they started helping around the house by feeding the cats first thing after they woke up in the morning, which lead to the cats waking us up at 5 am for awhile. After we broke the wake up and feeding connection, they calmed down.)





  • I have a sexual parasomnia - while this hasn’t happened in at least 15 years, I used to initiate sex while asleep. I have no memory of it, but I have groped, kissed, sucked on the fingers of people, and sexually touched people sleeping next to me.
    I’ve always woken up just before sex occurred, but I’ve accidentally had sex with people before - people who I was attracted to, but maybe didn’t want to bang - because we fell asleep together.

    These days I’m not nearly in as many beds as I used to be (regardless of purpose) but I’m also an incredibly light sleeper now. The slightest movement and my conscious brain takes over. (Yay for newly(ish) developed hyper vigilance and anxiety.)
    With that said, I don’t sleep next to anyone anymore unless we’ve had a conversation about what could happen, and are on the same page.

    To your point about discussing things: The topic of consent around something that I’m not consciously aware is of occurring can be challenging as hell to navigate, but easier than not having a chat beforehand.









  • I must have.

    My wife is an anxious passenger. I usually set the adaptive cruise control to whatever matches prevailing traffic, and stay in the outermost lane unless I have to pass someone. Most of my driving is honestly trying to make sure if someone does something stupid, I’m reacting to it in a calm way.

    A lot of people have big feels about controlling the road.
    The adaptive cruise control is interesting - if I’m a few hundred feet behind someone long enough for it to “lock in”, I know their speed because my car is pacing them.

    It’s fascinating to see people suddenly accelerate after miles of the same speed on a relatively empty road because I moved into the passing lane, or (conversely) slow down because they’re alongside a slow vehicle and not in danger of being under-passed by another driver. The ego and herd mentality is something to behold.



  • Monument@piefed.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldBe The Sunshine ☀️
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    Oh, sorry. Comment snuck up on you too fast? Put you ill at ease while you thought you were the only person on the internet?
    What are you gonna do, claim personal offense and use that as justification to return the offense ten-fold?

    There is another option. It’s minding your business.
    We can’t know the justifications or dispositions of others, but we can choose not to pick fights with strangers. In fact: choosing to avoid confrontation could save a life! Someone else’s, or even your own - you don’t know who you’re messing with on the road. 🌈💫




  • When you think about yourself or users carrying their devices, what sort of devices do you envision?
    My 2021 MBP has those round feet that stick out an bit and is like 5 lbs. It’s an aluminum unibody. Grippy in the hands and rigid. I can gesture with it and have absolutely held it at the extent of my reach with two fingers to physically block an excited (but leg-injured) dog from running. My 2024 Dell Precision is 7 lbs, smooth, slippery plastic, and don’t move it without two hands on it at all times.

    But, truthfully - from my IT view - 5/26 blaze it.
    Do what you want, when you want, how you want as long as you don’t fuck with the security of the device. If you mess up your work device, your employer should have a plan for that. It sucks, but that’s the cost of doing business and a reasonable employer should know that. Obviously, don’t be careless, but things happen and we can’t nanny everyone. We’re adults, and if people mess up their gear, then respond appropriately. As a matter of IT and organizational planning, clear, effective, but reasonable policies and contingencies should be in place.
    As far as personal devices go, meh. All the devices back up regularly and there’s usually a budget or warranty program in place for repair/replacement.



  • Bad design.

    Dungeon goes in the basement, not in the middle next to the cuddle puddle or the burlesque room. The noise and activity would throw off the vibe.

    Really, it sort of depends on the type of energy you’re going for, but I’d make that dungeon room the massage parlor/tarot card reading/high tea service room. Foyer gets a boot shine station.
    Hair and makeup moves to the polycule room, which is lined with mirrors and outside the gender swap machine.
    Pet play moves to the current massage parlor, which appears to be some sort of 3-seasons room - everyone knows that cats need sunlight. Current pet play room becomes vetting and administration, plus coat check.
    Milking room and dungeon go to the basement, along with group showers, rigging, and the science lab (medical, vacuum beds, electrostim) and other wet or high noise equipment. No carpet. Tile. That way you can hose it out.
    Poly play room, group sex, and individual suites are upstairs. Each room has ‘flipper’ signs indicating status - reserved, observers welcome, participants welcome, do not disturb, in need of cleaning. Upstairs bathroom has a compact dishwasher under the sink that’s capable of sterilizing. Pantry has a lending library of sorts.

    Editing to add: what’s currently the milking room becomes my office, where I shitpost to the Fediverse.