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Cake day: September 24th, 2023

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  • Even Apple isn’t great with that. They often have different models for earlier and later in the year, various variants of each size, and little distinguishing features other than model number- same as those monitors.

    It just isn’t as visible on their products as much, because they at least try to make it more simple for consumers.but monitors often have model line, size, and resolution short hand to differentiate as well.




  • You could have written “sorry, watching a movie right now” and then stop responding or reading messages they send you.

    Hell, even if you remove the “sorry” part of the message. At a certain point, you need to take accountability for how you write messages, despite being in a bad place mentally at the moment. Maybe they were frustrating you by continuing to message you while you were busy (and it does sound like they had prior knowledge you were busy with a movie), but it also requires that you were continuing to engage with them despite being frustrating. Nothing was preventing you from simply not responding until the movie was over.




  • For the second situation, it isnt always that they want to be asked the question. Sometimes they noticed a change in your behavior recently and are checking in on you.

    Example, you’re eating lunch and you love chocolate pudding. You usually eat your chocolate pudding every day without fail. Today, you didn’t eat your chocolate putting and just left it sitting there.

    A: “Hey” B: “Hey” A: “So… what’s up?”

    Regardless, “what’s up” is just a place holder for “how are you”. Sometimes that is just small talk and a way of fulfilling simple social interaction, and sometimes it is a question with genuine interest in knowing what is going on in your life (or asking you first, so they feel comfortable sharing what is going on in their own life).

    I always find it easiest to give a simple and short, but honest, response, and elaborate further if they show interest with follow up questions. Of course, giving them information you are comfortable giving that person.

    A: “What’s up?” B: “Not much, I’m a little tired today. You?”

    or

    A: “What’s up?” B: “Kind of sad, but I don’t want to talk about it.”




  • It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of stress and anxiety, too, if you’re on a “hair trigger” with your emotions. Some self care and/or therapy may help with some of it, but you sound like you’re on the right track already. Try to be aware of when you feel that way, try to identify why the situation makes you feel that way, ask yourself what you can do in that situation too change anything, and try to view the situation from other perspectives (doesn’t have to be from the perspective of the person making you angry, but can be a stranger viewing the situation from the outside).

    Best of luck to you! And keep in mind that by just wanting to improve yourself in this way, you’re already take a step more than most people!