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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • If you are fine being in the current situation, there is no rush.

    But know that if you want more out of the relationship, it won’t happen. If/When you get there, if you don’t call it off, it will get harder and messier every day. So just be honest with yourself and your partner when the time comes.

    The boundaries of the relationship have been set and the chances they change in the current situation aren’t that good. So as long and you are happy in the boundaries of the relationship, then you aren’t wasting time.







  • Unfortunately, like many jobs in the past, ours is changing.

    I don’t have a crystal ball, so I don’t know what the future hold.

    All we can do is be informed about LLMs and futur techs, produce the best outputs with the constraints we have and hope for the best.

    Keep your skills up to date, and hopefully find a job where LLMs aren’t shoved down your throat. Or pivot towards something else.

    Coachmen had to learn a new job, and it might be our turn.

    I don’t hold a lot of hope for the next few years. It’s gonna be rough. All we can be is ready to the best of our abilities.



  • You know why the code is wrong because you have the experience to see where the issue is and what it is.

    If you’ve learned coding with LLMs from the start, you won’t acquire the experience needed to be able to tell what is wrong.

    I’ve worked with a client that tried to generate code for a HCI bluetooth device, trying to recreate the full Bluetooth stack, instead of picking the right product from the start, with a working stack.

    And that was a client that had technical knowledge, just not for Bluetooth and HCI.

    And if you try to tell the AI what’s wrong, it will create bullshit code until it kinda works, adding more issues along the way.

    I’m sure that AI will replace coders one day, but LLMs aren’t AI and they are neat ready to write decent, complex code.





  • This is only my experience, so take what follows for what it’s worth (not much).

    I have been in the same situation as your partner (though I had sex with my partner more ofte, but still way less than before medication).

    Simply put, I was ashamed of my low libido and not in a good headspace even with my medication( which was supposed to help).

    I was so ashamed that I didn’t want to initiate sex with my partner. It was not rational, but that is how I felt at the time. And I would sometime watch porn so that I could get the dopamine I would get from sex, without the shame.

    I know it won’t make you feel better, but hopefully you can have a different perspective on how your partner might feel and get, hopefully, a new track to find a solution to your problems.

    Also, there are some medications that can help with libido (Wellbutrin if I remember correctly). Might be worth it for your partner to check with his doctor.