• rumschlumpel@feddit.org
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      How many trans people would choose to be trans, instead of being assigned the gender they’re transitioning to at birth? Obviously that doesn’t really work vor enbies, but AFAIK enbies are a minority among trans people.

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        i would not be who i am without my life experiences transitioning. asking me to imagine being born differently is asking me to imagine being another person. no, i would rather be myself.

        there are many, many enbies. while the amount is probably below 50%, they are trans too and their experiences should not be sidelined.

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        Heck, that would have worked for this enby, but after two years of hormome therapy the dysphoria isn’t as bad as the social anxiety from living in this nightmare country.

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        Me. Before I transitioned, and in my early days of transition, sure, I’d have made that choice if it were available to me. But now, years in? Fuck no. I don’t want to be cis.

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      Being trans sucks, like being left-handed in a world for right-handed people does.

      There is nothing inherently wrong with it, the problem is all the people trying to police your body.

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        IMO, being trans would be bad even if other people were all supportive. Transitioning is a lot of effort and no one ever wants to have dysphoria.

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          This was the turning point where I started actively defending gays about two decades ago. Before then I didn’t really care I was younger and it wasn’t really in my life.

          But if you’re going to tell me that some middle/high schooler is going to choose bullying by assholes by announcing (or someone finding out) that they’re gay there’s no fucking way you’re going to tell me that’s by choice. Leave the damn kid alone.

          Of course there’s more details than that but that’s the gist of it. It’s hard enough as it is leave them alone, it’s none of your business.

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          you are acting like being trans is some kind of disability or flaw, when it is not. consider if you said “all people blind at birth would rather be born with sight.” that is certainly not true, as for many it’s a key facet of their being despite making life more difficult.

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            Sure but if you need to take a bunch of medicine and do surgeries you that’s not a net positive, medicalizing your body has serious repercussions involving post op care, up keep, it’s expensive and your body is no longer autonomous, it’s reliant on the pharmaceutical industry or shady DIY “treatments”

            I am physically disabled from birth I’ve had to take handfuls of meds daily and had to have extreme surgery… I don’t know any disabled person who would choose to be disabled

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          If everyone was supportive, I think it would be fine. It’d be seen like needing glasses. We just need this relatively easy medical care and it’s far less effort if intervention is done before puberty.

          Transitioning socially would be less of an issue too since it’d be seen as just something that happens sometimes and has been normalized.

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            Counterpoint: I need glasses and it kinda sucks. If I could just choose to be born with perfect eyesight, I would. And bad eyesight is generally much easier to diagnose and the treatment (either a prosthesis, i.e. glasses/contact lenses, or just getting lasik) is much faster than gender transitioning.