So I texted my mom last night that I think it’s likely that I have autism. Then she texted back that she has always suspected that I have autism since I was little kid and that she loves me. I felt very validated and happy that it went better than expected although somewhat upset that she never did anything to help me.

However this morning I woke up to a text from her insisting that I don’t actually have autism and I’m just lazy and over sensitive and that I need to get over myself and I have spent a lot of time crying in bed today.

[TW: Transphobia]

She’s done this before which is why I was so nervous to tell her. When I came out to her as a trans woman she initially said nice things to me, but then the next day she started ranting about “why couldn’t you just be a gay man” or “no one will ever love you if you’re trans.” It took her several years to come around and actually accept me.

All I really wanted from her was understanding, but she just gave me a lot of self-doubt and sadness instead.

Edit: Thank you all for your support, I really appreciate it ❤️🫂

  • Flax@feddit.ukEnglish
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    2 days ago

    For me, everyone in the family suspected I had autism, went to my mum about it who just shrugged it off. It wasn’t until I had a psychiatric nurse ask me if I was diagnosed. It was the first I heard someone suspect that I had it. I got an assessment (my mum was fine with it as a professional this time expected it) and I’m now diagnosed. But when I was telling people the reaction was basically “yeah, we know”