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  • Also applies to interviews. Here are some (corrected) examples from places I’ve interviewed at and not gotten hired:

    • Oh, your Spanish clients are doing their intake questions in the waiting room with their translators out loud asking them about their sexual abuse histories? That’s absolutely wonderful! Keep up the good work!
    • Oh, you’re using Salesforce to track your population of largely illegal immigrants? Oh, that’s really wonderful! It must be so convenient to have all that information on a cloud you can’t control or secure!
    • Oh, you don’t give faraday bags to workers working with illegal immigrants even though ICE buys the location information for every phone number it can? That’s a real cost savings for you!
    • Oh, so you’re going from 40 clients to 80 clients and are now adding another social worker but your current social worker still wants to have input into all 80 cases somehow and you haven’t quite figured out how that’s going to work? That’s wonderful! I love improvising things like basic responsibilities! Oh, and she’s not talking to me at all now even though she’s 1/3rd of the interview team? Great! I hate small talk!
    • Oh, you hive off your Spanish-skills examination into a single formal question that can be answered in three sentences? WHat a WONDERFUL way to evaluate how someone works and converses in Spanish! Good work!

    What I think I’m doing: showing a concern for the clients and the work and that I can contribute something to making things better.

    What I’m actually doing: insulting people and making them hate me.





  • True, but this is a sarcastic exaggeration. The idea is to just compliment people constantly and never say anything that may even tangentiallly been seen as criticism in any way. Despite the official purpose of work as a place to get things done the best way possible, the unofficial purpose–the thing that mostly gets rewarded–is ingratiating yourself to people.

    Or maybe I’m just an asshole, which also starts with a.

    Edit: I feel this: https://www.equanimitypsychologyservices.com/blog-3-1/why-im-an-autistic-asshole

    Especially:

    😠 Being Direct Isn’t Being Rude

    I value truth and accuracy over social fluff. If you say something incorrect, I might correct you—but it’s not because I want to embarrass you. It’s because I feel compelled to set the record straight. And yes, I’m also wrong sometimes, especially when it comes to social nuances.

    • I’m not trying to hurt your feelings.
    • I’m just more interested in facts than sugarcoating.
    • Assertiveness isn’t aggression.