Dislike:

• poor search engine results
• relatively small

I want it to get to a level where you find the good stuff reddit used to have. Like niche hobbies, detailed analysis, etc.

I’m doing my part, I guess

Reminded me of classic tacocat song “hey girl” https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=lXt5n9Ni5p0

A metroidvania a la celeste, cave story, untitled story, hollow knight, nine sols, guacamelee? That’s a genre I like that’s pretty popular. Side scroller for that kind of game is well understood.

Without more information about what your goals are, I’d do side scrolling. Assuming it’s like a platformer. If you’re making like an RPG or tactical combat game, probably top down.

Possessive is normally done with an apostrophe. The dog’s toy. The apartment’s lobby.

But when possessive goes on the pronoun “it”? No apostrophe.

Look out for the monster. Its fangs are sharp.

If you put an apostrophe, that’s for “it is”.

This bothers me slightly. There’s history illinonating why it happened, but I don’t like it.

No. A well executed flirt can make someone interested when they weren’t before. You flirt with the cute girl at the party and if she’s receptive, maybe ask her out or ask to kiss. Or not. Sometimes flirting is just fun for itself.

Standing there in chaste politeness is going to create a whole different scene with different outcomes.

You can be an extremely hot man but if you can’t converse better than “idk lol” and never ask any relevant questions, you’re unlikely to have a good time. People like when potential matches are interested in them.

Your message I’m replying to seems fine, so that’s promising.

Many people go to clubs and meetups to do the thing the club is about. If you go to the bike riding club or bird watching club looking for dates, people are going to pick up on that and probably react unfavorably.

If you go just to do the thing, that’s fine, but you could do that for years without ever finding a date.

I wouldn’t recommend this as a primary means of finding a partner.

Yes and no. Capitalism has lead to shitty experiences for users, but also users self sabotage. It is possible to find success for free, but you’ll probably need to spend time and effort on it.

On the one hand, they are capitalist shit holes. They want to make money, not find you a partner. There’s not enough competition (match group owns a lot of different apps). Those are big factors in why they suck. They’re going to keep asking you to pay for more, and there’s no competition to drive down prices or force innovation. This absolutely sucks and should be changed, but good luck getting the current US government to do anything good.

The other problem is many users are frankly bad at using the apps. They have a blank profile, or one that has no hooks. When they get a message, they dead end the conversation instead of engaging. They ghost.

Don’t be like that. Don’t send generic messages. Have a profile that funnels people into interesting stuff you want to talk about. When the app has a space to write your hobbies, do not write “lol I dunno”. That’s stupid and self sabotage. Write something (true) that gives people an entry point to talk to you. “I really like making pizza! I’m working on perfecting a stuffed crust recipe” is basic but gives them something to talk about. Many people fuck this up and then are like “why does no one send me interesting messages??”. They don’t know you. If you don’t present anything interesting, they’re not going to know.

Once you have the conversation going, ask them out. I’ve heard many people complain about this problem. Guys will match and then text and text and text for days or weeks, and never ask them out. Then they complain “I never get a date!”. Self sabotage. Match, ask a question about their profile, have one or two exchanges, clear any deal breakers (eg: if you’re divorced or have kids), then ask them out. That’s it. That’s the game. People fuck this up and blame the apps.

You don’t need to be mega good looking. That’s just a bullshit self comforting excuse. I used to have a horrible cave man beard and none of my clothing fit right. Still got dates. The bar for men is in hell. If you can converse, be kind, and pay attention to them you’re already ahead of the curve. Getting a good hair cut, clothes that fit, and a good photo helps, but do not think you are immutably unattractive. That’s nonsense.

Your location matters a lot more. If you live in bumblefuck, Wisconsin, where there are 23 people in your age and gender range, you’re going to have a bad time. There’s a special place in hell for people who lie on their profile, though. Don’t say you live in New York when you “might move there some day” or commute in for work.

I never paid for the apps. When I’d use them every day, I could typically get a date a week. Some were just the one date, some lasted weeks, and a couple lasted longer. I’m about 40 and largely unremarkable. You have to put time and effort in. Every day, go through profiles and send quality messages. Most will go nowhere. Don’t be discouraged.

Larger orgs probably have their own website, and could put it there and/or make an RSS feed. That’s old tech, and probably not as popular because it can’t be monetized like twitter/facebook/etc.

There’s also email, which is typically free. It’s less fancy, but it’s also very open. You don’t get good discoverability, though. Some bands I like send out newsletters and that’s how I keep up with them.

Lastly, the fediverse exists. It has some of the problems of social media, but at least it’s not owned by a handful of rich assholes.

I don’t use reddit aside from reading search results. I never post and never explicitly seek it out.

I deleted Twitter years ago. I never used Facebook or Instagram or tiktok. That shit’s bad for you.

It’s annoying that some places will make announcements only on shitty platforms. None of my friends are this “hardcore” , so sometimes I find out about stuff like a concert or protest or whatever because one of them sees it on Instagram

I was burgled. The cops came and looked around. Looked for finger prints. Didn’t get anything. The guys who came were polite, at least.

They supposedly caught the guy because he left his wallet at another place he broke into.

I didn’t get my stuff back. They didn’t even try to help me get my stuff back.

Overall a 3/10 experience.

CrossCode has such charm. The puzzles are good, but I find myself tired after playing it in a way other games don’t give me. I should finish it.

Shadowrun for Genesis was amazing! Ahead of its time. The way it semi randomly generated jobs for you to do was pretty unique. Like Bethesda radiant quests, but decades earlier and better. I really enjoyed rising up from the weakest street runner to someone with enough reputation to skip the line at the expensive club.

The leveling system was also pretty advanced for Genesis.

Also the cyberspace hacking was wacky and fun.

This probably won’t help with the first point but you can hit Ctrl+d I think, or click the star, and it’ll just bookmark it with a default name (page title) and location, I think. I’ve definitely bookmarked things by accident somehow.

I don’t believe I have ADHD so I can’t really relate to it. My original post wasn’t meant to be like a condemnation - weird isn’t always bad. Just different.

It’s mildly interesting that you wouldn’t get anything done, but I feel like if I had to work like you I wouldn’t get anything done. Trying to deal with all those tabs would be a big distraction to me. Funny how different folks can be.

Usually the browser history, or I remember enough to find it again.

Admittedly, a couple times I haven’t been able to find a particular meme or whatever, but it’s never been important stuff.

Other people’s computer usage is weird to me.

I just bookmark stuff if I think I’ll need it later, and I usually don’t even do that. Otherwise, every browser window is closed at the end of the session.

Probably any game with a story. Voiced might be better, but written has advantages, too.

Might not want games with a lot of fictional words or idiosyncrasies. Like Baldur’s Gate 3 is really good and well acted, but you’d pick up a lot of less useful fantasy words.

Just looking at what I’ve played lately.

Guild Wars 2 is a great game. Lots of content. Most of it voiced. There’s also other players you can talk to, and some might speak your native language. It has some fantasy jargon.

Grand Theft Auto 5 would probably teach you swear words and other stuff you shouldn’t casually say. Be careful with that one.

My time at Sandrock was fun. That probably would give you some vocabulary.

Yeah it bothers me when the community for a game is like “{skill} is TRASH never use it” and when you do some digging you find it’s like 2% less damage per second. Or it doesn’t work well in NG+7. Some people are really obsessive about this stuff.

DND is tricky to recommend. On the one hand, as far as RPGs go it’s mega popular. On the other, it’s a very specific kind of game and rather finicky.

Many people who don’t want to play fantasy dungeon crawling tactical combat would enjoy other genres, but finding those groups can be harder. One of my friends has no real interest in fantasy, but immediately was like “LET’S DO IT” when I mentioned a game of Vampire.