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Cake day: June 21st, 2023

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  • I’ll +1 your gripe with my old man yelling at clouds thing. Windows XP gave you the option of creating arbitrary taskbars/toolbars to locations on the desktop that could be floating or docked. I have always kept my data on a separate drive or array from the one my OS lives on. In Windows XP I would create a toolbar that contained the root of my data drive, dock it to the right side of my monitor, and then set it to autohide the same way you can set the taskbar to auto hide.

    That in conjunction with the way that Windows XP allowed you to remap “My Documents” to a different location made for the cleanest workflow I have ever had.

    They removed the toolbar functionality after XP and changed the way remapping system folders works slightly since then. I haven’t really found an application that gives the exact same functionality as the arbitrary toolbar from XP, but even if I did I still spend over half my day at work on a computer that is locked down by corporate IT where I can’t install whatever I want, and I like to try and mirror workflows between home and work because of muscle memory.

    I’m in my mid 30s, lol.




  • The issue is that “finding it a personal failure” is missing the point of a Union and the conversation entirely. The entire point is that there is an inherent power imbalance and with everyone’s livelihoods relying on each other having a concrete set of mechanisms in place beyond “trust me brow” is very important.

    For the sake of argument let’s say that every employee feels 100% comfortable discussing issues with Linus and that he is 100% reasonable in his response such that his statement about feeling like a failure is valid. What if he were to suffer some kind of brain injury where cognitively he seemed to make a full recovery but over the course of a couple of years he seemed to be more selfish, less willing to take feedback, and more willing to order people to do things or they are fired?

    It wouldn’t be severe enough for family or anyone to legally take control, but it could harm workers, and that is exactly what how a Union could help balance and smooth things out in that scenario.


  • I should preface everything I’m about to say by saying there is probably a reason you are married and I am not, and that my response is probably wrong.

    I lived a somewhat similar experience during his first presidency and COVID. Personally, I would have the most issues with my partner. By ignoring the abhorrent behavior and decisions of their family and choosing to interact with them anyway, they are condoning what their family is doing. Even if they are somewhat vocal in their disagreement, the family is avoiding the consequences of their actions since the spouse is still giving them what they want.

    If my spouse shut them down and called them on all of their bull shit, I’d probably be OK with them continuing the relationship, but most people aren’t willing to do that.


  • I refrained from talking about the gender role thing because per the post title it didn’t seem like a prejudice perse, even if related. It’s also a topic I always try and preface with stating that although the symptoms might be fairly plane and apparent the cause is very complex and nuanced and a result of a lot of different societal pressures and influences. Partially because it is very easy to paint someone talking about it as a red pill misogynist if that nuance is ignored. I also try and point out that this ultimately isn’t a gender issue or any other tribalism type thing, but merely a result of human nature. People are shitty sometimes. That’s universal.

    In my experience, there are a lot of women that are very vocal about equity and equality, especially in relationships. However it’s often fairly unidirectional. For example they want their partner to be able to do things like cook, laundry, dishes, etc (which I can do, I think that’s part of being a well rounded person), but they don’t have much interest in learning how to do the traditionally male coded household tasks. Or they don’t want to be the one to approach and ask me out, I always have to be the one to pursue. Similarly in the bedroom I have never met a woman who is dominant or willing to try, despite the fact that I am very switchy.

    In talking to these people and pointing out how their personal desires and behavior don’t align with their actual decisions and behavior they often default to, that’s just my personal preference.

    That’s nice, but who cares? It’s not fair to have it both ways and ultimately feels like another form of pulling the ladder up behind them.


  • I have a lot of first hand experience with it via dating. In terms of outward Appearance and how I present I am an average looking straight cis white male. Mentally, in addition to being on the spectrum, that’s not really how I identify or am wired though. If anything, I’m probably more lesbian based on who I seem to get along with and am attracted to, lol.

    As I am sure we are all (hopefully) aware there are a lot of men with very problematic behaviors (which is an entire other complex topic). As a result, within the liberal sphere I exist in it is very socially acceptable to shit on or otherwise have a negative bias against people that present like I do in a way that would not be acceptable if it were against another social group because of what they are.

    I have had a number of interactions and conversations where my point of view/input/feelings/etc. were more or less dismissed or ignored by women when if I were a woman saying the exact same thing it wouldn’t be. I have also had people flat out say “that’s a very man thing to say” as a when what I am saying conflicts with their world view or how they feel and they can’t engage with it logically anymore.

    Please note, I am leaving a ton of intricate context out of the above to try and avoid having to write a novel. I understand why women have the bias/reaction towards men who present like I do, and why it’s necessary. In the examples I am thinking of, these are women who know me, not strangers or randos. When discussing things I do my absolute best to have conversations in good faith and on the merits/logic of what is being said.

    I don’t like pulling the autism card or saying that’s just how I feel, but I find that people are so unused to interacting with someone like me, rather than engage in the nuance of my experience and how it very much contradicts their world view, it’s much easier for them to find a reason to be dismissive of it. I also realize that from a third party perspective without any context my autistic behavior is indistinguishable from gas lighting.














  • I know you are getting down voted, but I get it and have had similar thoughts. Do I think there is actually anything wrong with me? No, I don’t actually have any issue with myself as a person. Nor do I think there is anything wrong with “neurotypical” people. That doesn’t mean I’m not fundamentally incompatible with society as a whole without having to constantly use a complex set of mental algorithms developed over decades that allows me to function within it well enough to fulfill my basic needs and wants.

    In an ideal world people would be understanding and accepting of me and anyone else that is “different”. That’s not the reality though. People are OK with different as long as it isn’t too different. In order for me and people like me to function in the world with the same ease and understanding that everyone else does would require educating and acclimatizing them to be understanding of differences from the youngest ages. In a fucked up way I think using gene editing to make sure no one has to experience the pain of my past (and sometimes still present) is more feasible than seismically shifting the attitude of society as whole.

    As I said before, I don’t have an issue with myself, I just don’t think anyone should have to experience what I have experienced. I’m even one of the lucky ones that is high functioning and doing well for themselves in all aspects aside from socially. This shouldn’t be the solution, but if it means people don’t have to suffer I have a hard time being completely opposed.