Kaja • she/her

The lower bound on what age a person has to be before being sexually attracted to them doesn’t feel creepy goes up as you age, well past 18-20 by the time you’re in your 30s. However, this lower bound does eventually slow or stop, and finding a 40 year old attractive by the time you’re 60 doesn’t feel nearly as weird.

So I’d imagine it’s because basically anyone of any age can find a 40+ year old woman attractive without feeling like a creep, whereas most people start aging out of finding 18-20 year olds attractive by the time they’re in their 30s.

The really quick summary is that the mods of the 196 community on blahaj.zone wanted to move the community to lemmy.world, but did not announce it publicly to the users or seek their input, and so when the announcement came out, users of the instance felt blindsided by the announcement, and that lemmy.world was a fairly unpopular choice of instance. The resulting discussion from the thread largely did not dissuade skeptical users and contributed to the feelings that the mods were making a unilateral decision based on their desire and ignoring what the users of 196 wanted, and the decision to keep the original community on lemmy.blahaj.zone locked meant that users who did not want to post on lemmy.world were losing out their community.

This resulted in another 196 clone being created on blahaj, the original 196 becoming unlocked, and so now there are 3 196 communities. The newest one, [email protected], has a particularly high posting rate right now, as users are attempting to assert that community’s support as opposed to the ones run by the mods of the original and the lemmy.world communities.

• You’re unlikely to get fired during this consolidation. Firing is only done for cause, for either behavioral, performance, or legal problems. In many companies, you’d also be first put into a Performance Improvement Plan, where the problems that might lead to you being fired are formally raised to you and you’re given the conditions you need to meet to not be fired.

• What you’re likely facing is a layoff, where a company terminates your job because your role is no longer needed. This is important, because in a layoff, you get severance pay, unemployment insurance, and potentially other benefits, while being fired may impact your ability to get these benefits.

• Generally, it’s better to not quit if you don’t have to. If you stay and you get fired/laid off, you lose income you were about to lose anyway. If you quit but could have stayed and kept your role, you lose income you didn’t have to lose.