Can someone do me? 😄 I am super curious

I am not sure. I don’t think we should punish someone that acted in good faith.

There is a possibility (not likely) of someone not learning about the holocaust by the age of 15. In Norway you can be punished from that age and up. Maybe the person had nutjobs for parents etc. I think I learned about it at 13-14. There is a lot about it in the Norwegian curriculum, so you have to really be unlucky to not learn anything about it.

Anyways, it is ethically wrong to punish a person that was unfortunate and did not get a proper education and parenting. How to handle those cases is difficult though. Holocaust is a pretty obvious case of something EVERYONE is exposed to a lot. There are however lots of other historical facts that a person might not know. Is thst fair to punish someone for?

Disinformation is spreading misinformation on purpose, knowing that it is incorrect.

Spreading misinformation should (in my opinion) not be illegal in itself, people should in many cases be given the benefit of the doubt. It might be ignorance.

A judge/jury should decide if it is done knowingly.

First off, I am a bit torn here, but will take the opposing side for arguments sake.

This is not an opinion. The holocaust happened, that makes it a fact.

I get your point, but should disinformation (as in deliberate misinformation) be allowed? How much harm should we accept from people spreading disinformation before we do something? The harm here being antisemitism.

Antisemitism is growing because people do not differentiate Israel and Jewish people. Many jews report that they do not feel safe in otherwise safe countries.

This is a hard question. Not sure what I think… Might be side effects that are hard to foresee

People are making leaving so needlessly difficult. Do you want to leave? Just leave and say that it’s time to leave.

“I think it’s time for me to leave. It has been great seeing you again and hanging out!”

Want people to leave? “I am starting to feel a bit tired, so I think we got to wrap this up”

If you are leaving a party with many people? First say goodbye to the host, then announce it to everyone. “It’s time for me to leave. Was great seeing everyone again!”

Always say goodbye to the host, just leaving is in my opinion a bit rude. People may disagree on this.

I think it is simply because people are afraid and are doing their best at coping. This results in seeking validation and support. It has been a lot worse since Trump got into office.

He is forcing everyone to pay attention all the time. One insane action after another. One goal post after another. Many things are relevant to the communities in some way. Many feel the need to fight back within their community.

While this is probably not for me. I appreciate the diversity and creativity of humans.

I love how you can just ask this question on Lemmy, and people give great replies. I do it often, and learn so much.

I think both you and op misunderstand. It is suppose to be uplifting.

making someone feel better

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/uplifting

I can clearly say I don’t feel uplifted.

While it is always positive to stop suffering, this does not feel very uplifting. I was not aware of this suffering until now…

Oh, I must have explained wrong.

Yes, everywhere is legally required to accept it still. But the usage is really low, and there has been talks of removing the requirements of accepting cash.

I would think a lot of countries are tackling a lot of emergency scenarios at the moment.

Increasing defence, digital sovereignty, robust power grid, basically just preparing for bad shit

Cash will change to a digital form or disappear, I don’t agree with the people claiming it wont’t.

Scandinavia is so close already, recieving cash is considered bothersome. No one uses it for anything anymore. Well… Besides drugs.

Both electricity and the internet is critical infrastructure. Any downtime of either is really serious. It is however not rocket science to solve the biggest issues in regards to payments. As long as people can show their identity we can agree on tiny loans for stuff. Or just having the government bail out all verified purchases after the fact.

100$ per person isn’t that much money. Any bigger purchases can be handled with invoices.

So I am more worried about heating in the winter and access to water and sanitation.

It was probably the best case scenario. This happening outside of winter or a war was pretty lucky.

Now they get to learn and improve.

This is why I subscribe to lemmyshitpost

Interesting perspective. I think I kinda agree.

I have a logical view of the universe as deterministic and that nothing matters, but my feelings contradict this, which is fine.

However, the thought that life HAS to have meaning as something negative is a new perspective, in that it implies moral and ethics.

Kudos for trying to stay in the marriage. Not because of the oath, but for yourself. I can imagine that the hurt must have been immense and that the temptation to leave and start fresh was big.

When I was younger this was black and white for me. As I have grown older I have realized that life is not that simple. I have been fortunate enough to not experience this myself, but after a relationship for 11 years I can understand why people stay after cheating.

It’s so easy for someone to say that it is black and white on social media. You see it all the time with all sorts of things related to relationships and human behaviour.

Having your perspective in this is really valuable, thanks for sharing.

If you want out of the marriage, then this is the time. No point in working on a marriage you don’t want.

If you want to stay then:

Couples counselling. Seriously. It is not cheap, but it’s a lot cheaper than a divorce. It also resolves unhealthy tension and issues in the relationship. You might even get out of it with a lot better marriage than before you cheated.

Do that for a long time. Show that you care by taking initiative, and resolve this with a counsellor and your spouse.

I also believe it is possible to regain trust, and to forgive.

You did a bad thing, but don’t let it define you. Now you got to set it right, show her that you actually care about her. Do the hard work and make the relationship stronger than ever.

You should not tell anyone you cheated, if your wife does, then you have to accept that. She might feel that this affects her honor and standing amongst other people. So let her decide if people should know or not.

Anyways, good luck! Be patient and be kind. You can do it! 👍

Logically I am a determinist and a nihilist. It’s the only thing that makes sense to me.

But I can’t live life like that. Life is lived through feelings and it feels like I have free will. So I feel meaning by contributing positively and that my choices in life matter.

So, I contribute, try to do good, be helpful and nice to people, and also fulfill some hedonistic desires such as good food, lovemaking, shows, etc.

Having some distance while working on yourself is probably better. Maintaining friendships at least somewhat. Everybody needs and deserves human connection. If you believe you are toxic to other people and harm them, then limit the amount of time per person. But remember, it’s not only your responsibility, if they are bothered by your toxicity, then they also have a responsibility towards themselves. Do not make that decision for people, maybe you are not as toxic as you believe.

Being toxic is also not a permanent state of being. People change, and they do it all the time.

I have friends that struggle with mental issues, they can be too much sometimes. It is however always nice to spend a couple of hours here and there. Life is not black and white. You are not either toxic or not toxic. Most people can be pleasant for a couple of hours once in a while.

If you believe you are toxic, then fake it til you make it. Be fake positive and fake nice for an hour or two, after a while it will become second nature, and then it will become who you are. If you have views that you consider toxic, then challenge them. Use UnpopularOpinion or other forums to discuss then. If your views differ from most other people, then maybe it’s something you should challenge. Either you convince people or you are convinced.

If you realize you said or did something toxic, just apologize.

Just giving up is harmful towards yourself. You deserve happiness.