Finally got my crap together. Career taking off, got rid of my toxic relationships, adopted several cats, getting into really good shape.
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I work in IT, many of the managers are pushing it. Nothing draconian, there are a few true believers, but the general vibe is like everybody is trying to push it because they feel like they’ll be judged if they don’t push it.
Two of my coworkers are true believers in the slop, one of them is constantly saying he’s been, “consulting with ChatGPT” like it’s an oracle or something. Ironically, he’s the least productive member of the team. It takes him days to do stuff that takes us a few hours.
That’s rough, I’m sorry too, it never gets easier. 💔 stay strong, the important thing is that they feel safe and loved 💙
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Thoughts on putting down elderly pets?
12·23 days agoLet me share my personal story. Trigger warning for anybody reading this, there’s a lot of details.
My spouse and I had a beloved cat who was amazing. Rescued her as a kitten, the runt of her litter. She was born sickly and got worse for a while, we thought she wouldn’t make it for several weeks.
But we nursed her back to health and she started to thrive. She never got big, even fully grown, she was 6.5 lbs. Most people thought she was still a kitten, but she had 60 lbs of attitude lol.
She was a wonderful cat, full of life, playful, fierce, super smart, my spouse and I were totally in love with her.
Then one day, she stopped eating and started acting really lethargic. We went through all the typical potential causes. Tooth pain, upset stomach, constipation, UTI, etc.
Took her to the vet several times. After almost 2 weeks of us barely able to get her to eat more than a few bites of her usual favorite treats per day, we had them scan her for potential blockages or other stomach issues.
Vet came back with the results, it was cancer, her entire abdomen was filled with large tumors. 100% terminal, the vet said that there was no way to remove it all without killing her from the internal trauma because the cancer had spread so far and was completely surrounding many of her organs.
We were absolutely devastated. She was only about 3 and a half years old. The vet said it was just bad luck, it was rare to see this kind of cancer in a young otherwise healthy cat, but it did sometimes happen.
Even still, we asked about chemotherapy, (yes they do that for pets sometimes). The vet said that at best, it would only give us 1-3 more months if we were lucky, and she would be drugged up so much that she would basically be in a state of dillusion the whole time. Plus it would have cost between $4,000- and $8,000. Which was far beyond anything we could afford.
My spouse and I went home, cried our eyes out for the next 2 days, and talked about end of life care. Our primary vet had given us a pamphlet about in-home euthanasia. They come to your home, you can lay down and cuddle with your pet, play music or talk to them. The vet administers a shot, and after about 10-15 minutes, they fall asleep and then…they’re gone.
We chose that option and it was as positive of an experience as it can be, when doing something so sad.
We laid down on both sides of her, placed her on her favorite blanket, and just gently pet her, kissed her, and quietly told her what a brave girl she was and how much we loved her. Our vet was super calm and respectful. After she administered the shot, she let us be with her, and checked her pulse every 5 minutes or so. After the third time, she quietly told us, “Alright, she’s passed. Take all the time you need. When you’re ready, I’ll take her back with me.”
The vet handled the cremation and a week or two later my spouse and I got our cat’s ashes delivered to us in a little urn, with a clipping of her hair and a little paw print in clay. There was a hand-written note from the vet with her condolences, signed by a bunch of the vet techs, it was very sweet.
It’s a brutally hard choice to make, but I think it’s the right one. Our cat was in so much pain, she was malnourished, exhausted, dehydrated, she had lost all the joy that a healthy life provided her. Looking into her eyes and seeing her in so much pain, that’s what convinced me and my spouse to do it. I think it would have been selfish for us to keep her alive in that state waiting for her to die “naturally” or forcing a massive cocktail of drugs into her just so we could get a few more days or weeks with her.
I don’t condemn people for putting it off, I get it, it was one of the hardest decicions I’ve had to make as an adult. I wept like a baby before and after it for many days. If you haven’t seen it before, I can’t describe it. But there is a certain “look” an animal gets when it’s near the end. They know, they are smart, they have a soul of some kind I think, they can sense it. As somebody who is an animal lover and has had pets all my life, you learn what it looks like. It’s a look of pain and pleading, a look that says, “I’m in pain, and I’m tired, it’s time for me to go.”
Some people say that pets can’t tell you if they want to be done, but I think they can, it’s that look in their eyes of desperation, and when you’re my age and you’ve had to say goodbye to numerous pets over the years, you learn what it looks like.
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Selfhosted@lemmy.world•Solutions for remote access?English
9·26 days agoTailscale, Netbird, or Pangolin. Foss overlay networks have completely eliminated traditional VPN setups for my self-hosting needs.
The only thing missing is full fishnet tights with a girdle for Gentoo.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is your opinion on Libertarianism?
10·30 days agoLeft wing (actual OG) Libertarianism is great. Right wing Libertarianism is basically a bunch of antisocial/intellectually lazy people who think the ideal society is one where everybody has a few acres of land with a little shack that they built themselves where they subsist on potatoes, carrots, and chicken eggs and stockpile gold and silver to trade with another libertarian twice a year.
We are rapidly depleting our healthy soil due mainly to destructive factory farming techniques used across the world.
Just one inch of healthy soil takes centuries to form from the slow breakdown of organic matter by a whole host of micro-ecosystems.
The desertification of massive swaths of our planet continues largely unabated.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the most nonsense thing someone has ever told you?
5·1 month ago“Yes, I’m sure I typed my password correctly.”
Working in IT, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard that and how many times it’s been wrong.
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Selfhosted@lemmy.world•Open Source Developers Are Exhausted, Unpaid, and Ready to Walk AwayEnglish
79·1 month agoPay for your FOSS! I’ve paid far more for my FOSS than for any proprietary software.
If you believe in subscriptions, then subscribe only to FOSS software like Bitwarden, Tailscale/Netbird, etc.
Find your favorite FOSS projects on Open Collective and support them there.
And above all else, treat FOSS devs and maintainers with the utmost respect! They are the unsung heros who are building the only alternatives to the corpo-dystopian hellscape of proprietary, enshitified, slop software.
Send a message to a dev today, just saying thank you to them for everything, and asking if you can send them a tip if possible.
Folks, let’s treat each other lovingly please, FOSS has freed us, give back what you can, and never take it for granted.
To all the devs, maintainers, tinkerers, supporters, FOSS educators, and helpful community members across the FOSS world, thank you so much, and much love. ♥️
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Selfhosted@lemmy.world•Promised myself I will support them after they go stable. They kept their promise and so did IEnglish
2·2 months agoBuying my copy soon!
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•How large would a pool have to be for you to swim in it if there is also a corpse in the pool?
7·2 months agoI’m going to assume worst case scenario, rotting bloated corpse that stinks, is covered in flies, and is floating high and very visibly on the surface of the water.
In that case, I would need the pool to be probably Olympic sized and be on the long end away from the corpse.
My instinct says that would be enough for me to not be too horrified beyond the initial horror of seeing it in the pool.
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linuxmemes@lemmy.world•Somehow *this* is what's going to convince me to distro hop.
3·2 months agoI hate that this is me…
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What youtuber do you think had the biggest downfall?
7·2 months agoI love how she starts off by saying her legal team recommended she not do that…then proceeds to do it anyways lol.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What youtuber do you think had the biggest downfall?
21·2 months agoOnision had a pretty spectacular implosion, but he was always a pretty wild and controversial figure. Shane Dawson was another pretty massive one. Miranda Sings was also huge, then all the weird and creepy chats and stage moments came out, sank her whole brand.
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Lemmy@lemmy.ml•What are your biggest annoyances with the Lemmy client you use?English
5·3 months agoVoyager user here, just some general bugginess. It’s not bad, but sometimes weird stuff happens, like when I minimize the app on my phone and then switch back, the main toolbar is misaligned.
I have tried a bunch of different themes, but Catppuccin is what I always come back to. Lovely theming ❤️
Typically it refers to leftists who strongly defend/advocate for authoritarian statist approaches to socialism/communism.
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Selfhosted@lemmy.world•What are you all using for a 2FA token manager?English
3·3 months agoAegis for time codes, Nitrokey for physical 2FA tokens.


I use a bunch of different ones depending on the use case. But the one I’ve been coming back to for all my general purpose applications is Mint.
It just works, and the Cinnamon DE is the most stable one in my experience, I’ve almost never experienced any crashes in years on a bunch of different devices.