This place has groups that are singlemindedly bloodthirsty and happy to see people hurt, particularly in the US, and don’t have a problem stating so.

It’s so tiring. I did my job, I voted, I told my friends to vote, I send a few emails every now and then to my reps, I go to protests, I try to self host and avoid some companies, and I cheer when foreigners say they want to distance from the US. I live, still. But it’s hard to not feel like shit when every other post or comment is “If you guys love guns so much then use them,” and, “All Americans are trash and wanted this,” and, “If Nepal could do it, why can’t they do it too?”

It’s exhausting to hear. It’s not that simple. We can’t just solve every political issue with weapons and violence, because then you just get another tyrant pn the throne eventually. We are not all racists who are eager to see our immigrant neighbors get kidnapped from the streets. I feel helpless about the suffering that is happening around me, and the fact that people who aren’t here experiencing it just get to joke, laugh, and shame makes it hard to stay on this site sometimes.

I still don’t truly know how to use docker, as I use dockSTARTer on my Debian VM on Proxmox, but it runns all my services now. I tried to resist and have multiple LXCs run everything, but as my homelab grew more complex (SMB & NFS, VPN tunnels, filesharing/hardlinks, etc.) I’ve just given up and have most things running on the docker. With dockstarter it’s enter “yes” to some terminal qs, copypaste templates into your overrides folder, and then use ds -u for update and ds -c to run everything.

I tried to use podman at first because people said it was safer and faster but… I literally couldn’t figure out how to turn a pod into a service so it will autostart on system launch 😅

Okay, how do you get sanoid & syncoid to run, because I’ve tried, and I’m just too dummy. When it makes a backup, is it literally making a zfs data record/pool/whatever on the other machine? Or is it more like a file? I have a Proxmox running cockpit (SMB & NFS) and the machine is connected to a USB drive bay that has ZFS. My immich is saving pictures to my ZFS drive bay via SMB.

I’ve tried to do

syncoid pool_name/data/immich root@cockpit.service.IP.addr:mnt/samba/backups

but I get hit with:

WARNING: ZFS resume feature not available on target machine - sync will continue without resume support.
INFO: Sending oldest full snapshot Orico2tera4/data/immich@syncoid_nova_2026-01-27:13:38:44-GMT-05:00 to new target filesystem root@192.168.0.246:/mnt/samba/backups (~ 42 KB):
/dev/zfs and /proc/self/mounts are required.
Try running 'udevadm trigger' and 'mount -t proc proc /proc' as root.
44.2KiB 0:00:00 [ 694KiB/s] [===========================================] 103%            
CRITICAL ERROR:  zfs send  'Orico2tera4/data/immich'@'syncoid_nova_2026-01-27:13:38:44-GMT-05:00' | pv -p -t -e -r -b -s 43632 | lzop  | mbuffer  -q -s 128k -m 16M | ssh      -S /tmp/syncoid-root1921680246-1772385641-845218-1784 root@192.168.0.246 ' mbuffer  -q -s 128k -m 16M | lzop -dfc |  zfs receive  -F '"'"'/mnt/samba/backups'"'"' 2>&1' failed: 256

I’ve tried reading the github docs and some forums but I’m dummy. I just want to have backups that I can encrypt and keep in a cloud for cheap somewhere. Does it literally have to be two different machines (god I’m dumb)? Can I just auto run ZFS snapshots and encrypt then save those to Drive/OneDrive/Whoever?

OHHH THAT’S why Voyager gives me an error.

Sigh, these are the things that might drive people away from Lemmy and Piefed. Lemmy devs are tankies, Piefed devs are weirdly puritanical, and instances won’t tell you they don’t allow downvotes.

As a cyber student, I have to literally stop myself from researching FOSS apps and homelab setups so I do my actual work that will get me the degree to pay for said projects and setups…

Oh I definitely want to have a dedicated machine for the opnsense, I was planning that and a small switch as a gift to myself for my birthday. I just wanted to figure out if I could do something with this poor laptop lol.

I’ll keep your NAS setup in mind.

Currently in that “sifting through online resouces” phase, but less because of broken stuff, and more because I want to set up everything prefectly the first time. Which is probs impossible lol. I am majoring in Cyber, so tech is my life, but this homelab is how I actually put what I’ve learned to use and learn even more than what college will probably teach me.

I’m on winter break and having a blast (kind of 😅) setting up my Proxmox to have all the services I want. I have gotten stuck several times, but I can find info eventually, and keep moving forward. Thankfully there’s a website that contains Proxmox setup scripts for almost every service imaginable, making a homelab way more accessible.

Linux skills/terminal knowlege helps this process go by faster, and my networking knowledge helps too. But that’s basically all I got lol. I can understand an okay amount of what scripts do, but I’m no programmer/scripter. I screw up mount points, look up how to check ssh key fingerprints every 10 mins, I fail to get VPN tunnel configs to work, a whole slew of issues. But I always end up learning something in the end, and get one step closer to that sweet sweet setup. So just learn and break things while you don’t care about it. Who cares if I fuck up the jellyfin config? It only had like two videos in it anyway. Best to screw up now so when I go data hoarder I know how to save my info.

Edit: Just got SMB to work for both my VM and LXCs, and I’m so happy. Every accomplishment with my homelab has me fistbumbing the air and floating on clouds. Make a homelab just the high it gives you when you do something right.

Unfortunately we didn’t get 1st place, but my high school Splatoon 3 team got 2nd place in a national e-Sports competition, so I guess I used to be one of the best teenagers in the nation.

Did you ever have a “maybe I’m bi” phase?

I’m asking because an Asexual youtuber stated they thought they had an equal attraction to men and women, before realizing that they did like the equally… at 0 attraction.

I know this sounds crazy, but i did kiss and makeout my same-sex female friends at a sleepover when we were 8-9 years old because we wanted to “practice” (y’all, don’t let kids have unrestricted/unmonitored internet 😭), but I never thought of them in a girlfriend/date way. I thought I liked a close girl friend in middle school, but once I got to high school I realized I’ve never had butterflies, wet dreams, or any desire to kiss any boys or girls that I met.

At this point, I think I’m asexual (or maybe demi). I know that graysexuals can still have some sexual attraction or like having sex, so I don’t feel any doubt/imposter syndrome for reading smut (hey, some aces write smut).

Anyway to add to the overall thread I’ve been questioning since 10 or so, and going with Ace since 16 or so.

Feels crazy to see Pixiv react emotes on anywhere but that site.