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Excellent response. You put it perfectly.

I like this sub exactly the way it is. If something isn’t for me, I move on. Not a big deal. And OP asked a great question. I never thought about it either, lol.

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I never heard it explained that way. What an excellent comment. Thank you for taking the time.

I am really sorry for your loss. I wish peace and healing to you and all who loved your mother.

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Of the two positions stated, theirs in the interview feedback and yours here, yours is BY FAR the more reasonable. That they would even feel free to say that to you indicates a bizarre level of entitlement or pre-employment loyalty there, one that’s made worse if it was the literal truth.

Entitlement is like an iceberg: what you see is just the tip. There’s always a whole lot more right behind it.

So let’s go there. I haven’t seen anyone else bring it up yet, but hypothetically, let’s say you drank the koolaid about their brand and, to increase your chances, you did spend a wad of cash (that you probably can’t easily afford) on their product before you even got to the interview. You walk in with that experience, able to tell them you’ve had their lessons and talk about their platform from a user’s experience, etc. Great!

Now what? How much farther does that actually get you? Not a goddamn bit, IMO, since you’re still behind anyone who has ever worked on a product of their own brand, and/or kissed whatever other invisible and undefined rings they want most but were not actually disclosed in the job posting. You spent all that cash, but your deficits as a candidate are still hanging in the air: you’ve never actually worked on it, just familiarized yourself with the product, albeit at a cost to you.

I am so glad you are writing this from the perspective of “should I have spent the cash?” rather than the perspective of “I spent this cash and now I’m out” because above and beyond the weirdness of their behavior, the last place you ever want to sink cash is on a job posting that can’t be bothered to include its most important requirements. Doesn’t matter that it’s a well known company, individuals and departments can be unethical too, and these certainly were.

It’s also entirely possible there’s an internal battle going on over this job, with some insisting it should go to someone already in-house and others, possibly even company policy, forcing it to be posted to external candidates – but in reality it has already been decided and they are just going through the motions of ticking the boxes until they can hire the one they wanted from the start. If so, you were never going to win it, and the whole thing was a gargantuan waste of time.

Add to that the fact that the posting itself omitted the company’s own most important requirement for the job, and I can only add to the chorus of people here who have already said you dodged a bullet.

Relax, you did good. Glad you made the decision you did. Best of luck in your job hunt.

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Get some time and space to yourself, 10 to 30 minutes, depending on the complexity of the situation. Think about exactly who/what you are angry with, and why (including yourself*). Don’t worry about solving it, just get it front and center in your mind. Pile up a huge number of couch cushions. Beat the ever livin’ fuck out of them with your fists and feet until you break down or wear yourself out. Repeat as necessary.

*Note: One of the reasons some emotional things never die is because we try to solve them without including ourselves in the equation: we see forgiveness is needed but we don’t include ourselves, for example, or guilt needs addressing but we don’t want to measure our own part in it because someone else’s betrayal was so overwhelming that it’s almost unbearable to think of the self as participatory in that destruction. Yet those are examples of exactly the kind of inner situation that keep us stuck in unhealthy emotional patterns. If you really want to get out of an emotional trap, including anger that doesn’t quit, and you think you’ve tried everything, try specifically looking for exactly what you don’t want to see about your own part in it.

You should consider crossposting this to [email protected] community; it would fit right in. Good pic, OP.

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Spam account, joined less than an hour ago and a bunch of these posted already. Reported and blocked.

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I can’t address the situation, but you should know that you can always hand wash limited items if you know you’re going to need them, like a spare pair of socks.

At the bathroom sink, get them good and wet, hand wash with ANY available body-safe soap (hand soap, shower gel, shampoo, even mild dishwashing liquid) by rubbing the soap around in your wet hands to create a lather, and then add that lather to the items, rubbing them all together well between your hands for a couple of minutes. Less is more: don’t use so much soap that you have to rewash to get all the soap out. Use as little as you can. Rinse well, and then look and smell: if they look clean and smell clean, and you got as much of the soap out as you can, they won’t embarrass you. No one will be able to tell you handwashed them when you wear them.

Squeeze as much water out as you can, but avoid wringing because it stretches and can even damage your items. Hang them up over a towel rod, a hamper rail, the side of the tub, or even laid out across a bed or the back of a sofa, using a towel underneath if you don’t want to get something wet (like a wooden chair back) and they will dry completely overnight. Don’t try to dry them in a closet or places with limited airflow. Hand washed items tend to be stiff when you air dry them like this, especially if you’re using non-laundry soap, but put them on and the scratchy stiffness goes away instantly.

This isn’t for every day use, or for endlessly repeated practice, but it absolutely works in a pinch and used to be common practice back when people didn’t have so many clothes and/or their own washing machines. It won’t hurt your clothes at all to do this as long as they are machine washable anyway, and even if you do it repeatedly just try get them into a machine every so often to get the non-laundry-soap buildup out of them. As long as it’s not a special care item, you literally cannot screw it up by handwashing it carefully and rinsing it as thoroughly as you can.

Everyone should know how to hand wash an item of clothing in an emergency, and now you do too.

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Look at their post history, lol

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