My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.
Sorry I misunderstood. In that case, cheating definitely hurts more I would say. It’s more of a betrayal then a break up imo. Its a bit like the difference between having 10$ stolen and losing 10$, or the difference between scratching your car on a branch and having someone key it. Depending on the person’s social circle, it’s a lot more humiliating being cheated on.
There’s also stds or just the fact that your significant other might have slept with someone else a few hours ago and then climbs in bed and has relations with you right after. And we are talking about 20 years of marriage in this case, I can’t imagine how disrespectful it must feel.
Both scenarios suck thought.