LadyButterflyshe/her@lazysoci.al to Autism@lemmy.world · 10 days agoDon't pick for me you WILL be wronglazysoci.alimagemessage-square16fedilinkarrow-up1456
arrow-up1456imageDon't pick for me you WILL be wronglazysoci.alLadyButterflyshe/her@lazysoci.al to Autism@lemmy.world · 10 days agomessage-square16fedilink
minus-squarecynar@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up5·9 days agoMy point is that I fought that structure, tooth and nail. It took a long time for me to realise that I needed it. Choices help, but some rules need to be laid down, whether wanted or not.
minus-squareRememberTheApollo_@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up7·edit-29 days agoSo in your case the offered/imposed format of structure ended up working. Yeah, plenty of AuDHD have some form of pathological demand avoidance, and the demand they accept presented structure will likely be rejected. So the person you’re responding to isn’t wrong. Structure is necessary, but it needs to be one you can accept, either offered or self-imposed.
My point is that I fought that structure, tooth and nail. It took a long time for me to realise that I needed it. Choices help, but some rules need to be laid down, whether wanted or not.
So in your case the offered/imposed format of structure ended up working.
Yeah, plenty of AuDHD have some form of pathological demand avoidance, and the demand they accept presented structure will likely be rejected.
So the person you’re responding to isn’t wrong. Structure is necessary, but it needs to be one you can accept, either offered or self-imposed.