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  • My wife and I take near daily walks through our neighborhood. One day we decided on a whim to take a couple bags with us and pick up trash as we walked. Ended up turning into an impromptu competition and we were laughing our asses off by the time we finished the 1.5 mile loop and got back to our house. We dumped about four bag loads of litter in our garbage can, and now we do it once every few times we walk. We couldn’t believe how nice it was just to walk around and not see litter for once! Just an idea :)








  • I don’t have any revolutionary advice to give to you my friend. I’m quite a bit younger than you and I already am feeling the creep of losing touch with the speed of new technology. I think to a certain extent that is inevitable. I will say that there is a tremendous amount of survivorship bias in the videos of young people making racks off of day trading. These videos are designed to get people hooked on what is functionally gambling. No offense meant whatsoever, but if you’re living paycheck to paycheck it’s the exact type of slippery slope that can turn a bad financial situation into a ruinous one. I hope you find something that you like though and wish you the best of luck in whatever you do!


  • I imagine interstellar coalition governments probably function a lot more like the EU than a single country. Individual planets/solar systems would probably function under a somewhat independent governorship that is still subject to the overall laws of the federation/republic.

    It’s sort of like asking “how big can a city get?” before states and nation-states existed, when in reality at some point a higher tier governance inevitably takes over. An interstellar or galactic scale government is necessarily going to be massively stratified with many levels of hierarchy in between. I think this is why many sci-fi governments at this scale are also described as bloated, unintelligible bureaucracies.





  • I work a 9/80 currently (so 9 hours a day every Monday through Thursday and then alternating 8 hours every other Friday with a Friday off) and I have grown to love it so much I think I would have an extremely hard time taking a five day workweek job. I also think I would easily work for 10s if it were an option as a constant three day weekend would be wonderful.

    I have done my own research on my productivity levels and found that I pretty much get nothing done on working Fridays anyhow, leading me to believe a 35 ish hour four day workweek would be more than sufficient to get everything I currently do done. That’s notwithstanding the fact that during each day I swing back and forth between high and low productivity too, so really something closer to like 25 hours a week of total work is accurate. So something like a certain minimum mandatory set of hours with flexible time to get your tasks done as others have suggested would be the ultimate solution.



  • I still cannot fathom how anyone thinks it is a good idea not to do these things with another person before marrying them. My wife and I were both adamant that we live together and go on trips together and do “married” things long before we made that decision. I like to think we ironed out many of the early kinks without the pressure of “we’re married so this absolutely has to work” lingering over us.



  • I have a strange relationship with masking these days. I had no idea I had autistic tendencies until I married my wife who has been diagnosed with autism. Since then it has been very rewarding having conversations about how our two flavors of autism differ. One of the things we differ tremendously on is our abilities to mask effectively. My wife has struggled with it, especially as a kid, but it always came naturally to me such that it is now my “default mode” when I am in public. Instead of missing social queues like many people, I find I have the opposite problem where I over-analyze social situations to the extent that I read too much into them and it drives me crazy. So masking has actually been very useful for me in that regard because I feel like when I am masking in public I am less “aware” of how I am acting because I feel like I am mostly coming off “normal” relative to the social expectation.

    My wife is also very socially aware but she struggles to turn off her over thinking meaning she frequently comes out of social encounters panicked that she said or did something wrong. Whereas I’ll be so blended into the situation I won’t even remember her saying or doing what she is worried about. We work together well in that regard because I remind her that if I am married to her and I don’t notice her say or do something “atypical,” then someone who doesn’t know either of us well almost certainly either didn’t notice either or won’t remember it five minutes after the conversation ends.

    So it is a mixed bag. It has been rewarding being able to unmask at home around someone I can trust and who I know loves me, but I still find today that I rarely completely unmask unless I am literally home alone in our house. That usually manifests in me walking around the house doing chores and things talking to myself about a thousand different made up scenarios, which even as a kid I always regarded would probably come off as weird to everyone else.

    I think the most important thing is striking a balance between masking and being genuine. I know many people struggle feeling like they are not being their true selves while masked and others even view masking as manipulative. But I think everyone has a different relationship with the practice.