

I do call out chords. Even without formal training, I still know the basics. It gets dicey when it comes to more advanced stuff like minor thirds, etc. When it comes to that, I switch to show-and-tell by playing the chord for the other members to hear and calling out individual notes.
Funny enough, in our last rehearsal, someone finally spoke up and said it was peculiar that I was calling verses “stanzas” and pre-choruses as “refrains”, which apparently aren’t terms being used regularly anymore. I didn’t realize because that’s how I learned to call them and have used it all my life.


I do concede that knowing theory enough to have a common language makes it easier. There were times, like the show band I mentioned, where that would’ve made it way easier to exchange notes. But at the same time, those kinds of groups (hired guns) are mostly at the level where you are expected to already know the material by rehearsal time.
Another example would be when I joined a new band that was starting up, and the primary songwriter was formally educated and was already in a semi-popular band in my city. Now that was a time I felt inadequate, because when he wanted us to do something, I couldn’t just simply translate what he was saying into my instrument. On the other hand, I was also a member of a long time prog rock band with technical players, but we didn’t have to resort to “theory” to communicate, and we got along fine. Everyone was pretty good with playing by ear, so a show-and-tell approach wasn’t a detriment.
As to the tuning out, I don’t necessarily “tune out” or ignore it. It’s just that I’m at a point in my life that music isn’t a primary career for me, and even if I still play with bands and release solo music regularly, I have so much going on with responsibilities that I choose to spend the already little free time I have to just enjoy playing/making music. I guess it’s also why the more complicated stuff I write, I just do myself as a solo artist because I can enact my vision without dealing with anyone else.