• 0 Posts
  • 51 Comments
Joined 9 months ago
cake
Cake day: February 2nd, 2024

help-circle

  • I have become that cliche where I genuinely look forward to getting socks under the tree on Christmas morning.

    I’m a grown ass man who can at any point in any day decide to get in my automobile and go to any store and buy a mountain of socks, or order a pallet of socks to be drop-shipped to the door of my grown up house on a whim.

    But I prefer to suffer holy toes and see through heels in anticipation of starting fresh on Christmas morn.

    When I realized this in my soul, I was no longer a child.


















  • For my spouse and I there is no “my money” and “their money”. It is all our money.

    If one of us wants to make a big purchase we have a conversation about it something like, “I’ve had my eye on a new graphics card. What do you think?” Then it goes either, “That’s great. Have fun.” Or, “Don’t forget we have little Jimmy’s orthodontist bill coming up.” “Oh, yeah, thanks for reminding me. Maybe later, then.”

    I realize this isn’t the norm and it took us a long time to get there. Many couples, my spouse’s parents among them, argue over money and use it as part of a power play. We still have separate accounts for budgeting purposes, and around the holidays we have to be honest not to peek at bank statements and spoil surprises. But not having to worry whether you spouse is messing up your eventual retirement or little Jimmy’s college fund sure makes life a whole lot easier for me.