I don’t have a problem. I can quit any time I like. I only swipe recreationally. Every five minutes. Maybe I’m in denial. First stage, right?

update: Auto-correct and I are in a toxic relationship. Swiping just enables it. Tried quitting once. Worst 5 minutes of my life.

update: There’s this 12-step program… Step one was turning off predictive text. Didn’t make it to step two.

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  • When I asked this question, I found out about raindrop.io. BTW, in that discussion you’ll find all the people with 500 tabs open. In this new one, you’ll also find lots of people who just close tabs regularly.

    Anyway, randrop is a service where you can dump links and go through them when you feel like it. The idea is, that if you know you won’t be checking a specific tab today, you can just save it in raindrop and cost the tab. I don’t like to have lots of tabs open anyway, but there are some sites I like to save for later. Stuff like vacation planning can produce twenty tabs just like that, and I’ll just throw them all into raindrop.

    Most of them are sorted into logical categories, and I’ll go through them when I remember to. For example, vacation planning will be useful later. When that time comes, I’ll start opening all those links I’ve accumulated over the months.






  • In the age of romanticism, art usually depicted idealized and beautiful things. Then realism emerged, and artists also stared painting poor and ugly people. In social realism, the art was supposed to make you feel a bit uncomfortable. All of that was still clearly art.

    I think art requires an intention. When you paint a picture of a seagull covered in oil, you may want the viewer to feel something about the petrochemical industry. When you take a photo of Chinese children working in a toy factory, you might want your audience to feel what the children are going through.

    When you’re painting using digital tools, you may draw the same line 20 times to get it just right. As an artist, you have a goal in mind, and you will keep pressing undo until each line in the drawing meets your criteria. If you generate a hundred pictures with an AI and pick the one that fits your goals, you’re essentially acting as a curator of art. There’s a goal and an intention behind the selection process. That’s why the line or picture that didn’t get deleted is art.

    What if there’s zero human involvement? If there is no selection process guided by goal or intention, is that still art? Maybe? What if the viewer still feels something when looking at the result. Maybe that could make it art¿ What if you just look at the clouds drifting in the sky, and that makes you feel something. Is that art too? This is where it gets really messy and the categories fall apart.


  • That’s a common issue. People simply enjoy neat boxes and categories, but the world is actually really complex and chaotic, and that’s why these categories are very problematic. While you can create arbitrary categories for everything, these definitions will inevitably be flawed. They’re still useful but far from perfect, with areas of ambiguity and contradictions.

    Consider, for example, where one species ends and another begins. It’s a messy and fuzzy situation, so we simply draw an arbitrary boundary. Similarly, what even constitutes “living”? Draw a line and don’t worry about the details. Yes, it’s indecently hard, because humans really love clear definitions with a burning passion. Unfortunately, the world doesn’t really support that notion.

    The same problem arises in art. Who created this painting? Well, it was primarily the work of Mister A, but he received significant assistance from his apprentices B, C, D and E. It’s complicated. Let’s just draw a line and stop worrying about the specifics.

    What even is art? It’s very messy. Expect uncertainty and contradictions within these fuzzy categories. Yes, but is this slop? Yet another category problem. Same answer.



  • Try to figure out if there’s a pattern. Maybe all the aggression-inducing events have something in common. Maybe that’s an emotion you haven’t processed or even noticed.

    Could be a moment where you feel hurt, ashamed, vulnerable, helpless, hopeless, or whatever. Start by naming that emotion.

    Once you figure that out, you can start processing that emotion and what causes it. Eventually, anger and aggression won’t control you anymore.








  • I believe societal expectations of masculinity and femininity have become distorted over time. Conforming to these rigid categories will just lead to sadness.

    If you’re a woman who enjoys tinkering with electronics, go for it. If you’re a man who feels comfortable expressing your emotions, do so. Why not explore both while you’re at it?

    In matters like these, it’s perfectly fine to disregard cultural norms and follow your own path. There’s no reason to conform to societal expectations that contradict your true self. You don’t need to identify with any specific gender; simply be a human and engage in human activities.

    I think gender has become another “tribe” that people naturally gravitate towards and identify with. It seems quite human to desire such social groupings. Thousands of years ago, your family and literal tribe fulfilled this role. Today, we seek similar social connections through other means.




  • Haven’t asked the admins, but here’s my guess.
    Being the most well known instance means that you get a lot of traffic. Let’s say that 1% of the people using your instance are annoying morons. In a smaller instance that 1% translates to maybe one ban a month or whatever. In a bigger place, it becomes a constant onslaught stupid idiot bullshit nobody has the time or energy to deal with. Either you get a bunch of admins and mods to deal with that nonsense or you start banning users more aggressively. If that doesn’t help, you may need to look at the instance where those troublemakers come from. If you notice that a particular instance pops up disproportionately often, you might want to consider defederating from it.

    However, some part of that drama is public on fediseer. Have a look. Just scroll down to censures given and read the reasons why lemmy.world has defederated from so many instances.