waste of time.

way too many people pursue the wrong people and do stuff like open relationships as a cope.

the fact the homes in my neighborhood have been on the market for months instead of days/weeks.

and they are empty. two years ago every home/apartment was occupied.

Also, I’m looking for a house and prices are coming down, especially the past six months.

because i didn’t want to live the rest of my life broke, working 80 hour weeks, and be subjected to political bullshit beliefs.

the internet is owned by private companies. including all the infrastructure.

the only thing that is public is ICANN and the standards.

Cool. I’d rather have some friends than none. So I work with what’s available.

No.

Unionize mostly occurs for working class folks, esp those working in the public sector or for a utility/infrastructure type of service.

Software Engineers are not working class people, they don’t do public or utility types of work. There also is no point of collective bargaining for them as they don’t have centralized skills or a centralized set of employers like most union jobs do.

yeah, I notice that when you confront folks on lemmy about the hypocrisy of their beliefs they pretend to be dumb, or just call you names.

it’s funny how violence is totally cool here, as long as the person calling for it doesn’t feel like they would be subjected to it.

depends on how you perceive of things. my experience of femcels is a lot of hostility and toxic behaviors.

but i don’t think women are inherently weak or harmless, which if you do, would color how you interpret things, and is the default bias most folks have.

yeah, but it’s less likely to happen as you get older because your hormones are raging less and less as you age.

people are most apt to ‘fall in love’ when their are hormoned up.

i personally find myself hardly ever attracted to the opposite sex anymore, but 20 years ago it happened regularly, and when I was a teenager I was crushing on a new person happened every month.

yeah, for me. i think any gender extremism should be banned and is toxic af.

people who get so wrapped up in their gender identity that they need to police or harass other people over theirs, is fucked up.

because you can still be targeted/reported/harassed by those people and their communities.

blocking/muting might give you peace of mind, but it doesn’t isolate you from the negative externalities those communities bring with them towards you or other users/communities.

because that’s their worldview. ‘everything is politics’

and when you think that way, it’s a justification for being a total hypocritical ass who wants to lecture everyone else but gets ‘offended’ when they see politics they don’t agree with.

and their justification for violence and harassment towards others. they need you to be on the other team, so they can dismiss/hate/threaten you.

that’s the majority of what drives people’s engagement on the entire internet.

the most angry folks are the most engaged and produce the most content. and bullying is the point.

but violence against majorities or ‘oppressors’ is OK?

heck, entire instances here are built on the principle of violent revolution against certain groups, but not against their group…

not so much community, but the general thing I can’t stand is the victim echo chamber mentality things.

it’s so bizarre to me. there is a lot of it here, and no matter if you block the communities the mentality is everywhere in every thread, and folks are hostile about it. and most of the communities here built around their victim status turn it into a superiority complex about how they have magical powers and abilities that their ‘oppressors’ do not.

the political people here will argue with you how the shape of your poo is a political act and determines your ‘team’.

for a lot of people US politics is the only thing that gives their life meaning.

I don’t.

those people don’t exist in many people’s lives.

and even if they do, it’s typically only temporary. people who get these lifelong deep authentic friendships… are pretty rare and lucky to have the circumstances in life that allowed for that.

like, a lot of people don’t have those kinds of relationships and never seek them either, the concept just doesn’t exist for them and they live their entire lives on a very surface level understanding of the world.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t understand how I can develop a deep authentic relationship with people who obsessed with shallow things like their social status and how expensive their car is compared to other people’s cars… and that’s what dominates the culture in my city. Or who fly into a long winded speech about their anxiety and despair over the fact they only make 350K last year or their stock portfolio only returned 5.5% instead of the 7% their account manager promised them…

I live in a city full of tech bros and biotech bimbos. this is all they know from birth to grave.

they find the concept of someone being genuine and non-bullshitty very upsetting and weird. but if you talk to them in bullshit corpo self-branding speak, they are totally into you.

like I’ve had ‘concerned friends’ lecture me on how to bullshittify the way I talk so it’s more socially acceptable. like using ‘pivot’ and ‘synergize’ when talking about myself, and of course constantly referencing my anxiety about my lack of ‘productivity’. or to constantly reference ‘how expensive’ things in casual conservation to let everyone know I’m wealthy and successful… because if you aren’t wealthy what is the point of even being alive?

also if you have a hobby, you can only talk about it reference to how it builds your career or it’s your side hustle.

both. i was in high school in 2000