I met a girl on hinge, we hit it off, the conversation was great and we were both really into it. We planned a first date. The date honestly felt magical. It was as if time flew by. We then plan a second date, we meet. At the end of the night we kissed. We continue to text, I plan a third date for this weekend. She agrees, were supposed to go to a light festival.
The next day she sends me a text where she says she’s not interested in anything romantic and if I’m ok with that, she’ll still go on the date with me. I text her back that it’s a bit weird for me to suddenly switch so I want to cancel the date because I’d need some time if we were to be just friends. She then tells me that’s she’s there if I ever want to talk.
Honestly, I’ll probably never reach out again but I do wonder if I did the right thing.
I think we are so conditioned to think that break ups or endings must be high conflict in relationships with a bad guy and a good guy. This is an example of two people both doing the right thing and not working.
You both went on a real life date instead of texting forever and wasting emotional energy before a face to face meeting. You both tested your physical chemistry early. You wanted to keep going out so you planned more dates. She did not and told you so. You handled it with grace and respect. All around best case scenario for two people to not continue dating.
Who knows maybe you will run into her at a bar and her friend will be interested in you. You have shown yourself to be a good person. She might vouch for you but even if not good vibes are out there. This was a success not a total success but a success